Like, if you were with your spouse for a long time and then divorced, how do you live in the house and sleep in the bedroom you shared with him for all those years without feeling like there is a gaping hole in your stomach?
How do you enjoy things after they've been tainted....
Say, your last pregnancy ended in a traumatic loss of the baby. You get pregnant again. How do you go on with that pregnancy without every little thing reminding you of the last one? How do you take your prenatals every day without feeling depressed about the last time you were taking those? How do you get excited to go to each check up without having the horrible memories that SHOULD have been happy memories but now never will be because of what happened.
If a close relative died very near a holiday, how do you go on year after year enjoying the holiday? How can you ever face that holiday without it being a harrowing reminder of the loss you experienced at that time?
Say, you and your lifelong best friend have a falling out and are no longer friends. How do you go to your favorites cafe that was you and hers "spot" where you always met up and shared so many good times and happy memories? How can you go back there without being haunted by what was and what will never be again?
Even just SIMPLE things. Say your spouse passed away. How do you even get up in the morning and make coffee without thinking about all the mornings you spent making coffee for her and sitting there having your morning chit chat? How can you ever again enjoy a cup of coffee?
Or places.... How do you sit on your couch when, say, that was the last place you sat as your friend walked out the door and you smiled and waved goodbye and told them you'd see them tomorrow but when they left they were killed in a car wreck?
How do you enjoy things that are tainted?