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does a PRENUP lessen the value of a marriage?

Anonymous
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What say you?

I personally would never marry someone who requested a prenup, and I'd never request any man to sign one before I'd marry him. I feel like it's a divorce before the marriage. Maybe that's just me though.
Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 29, 2013 at 10:17 AM
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KendallsMommee
by Spoiled SAHM on Oct. 29, 2013 at 10:18 AM
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I agree.

But if I had millions and finance had nothing, I might feel differently.
bluebunnybabe
by Ruby Member on Oct. 29, 2013 at 10:21 AM
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This. It's easy for me to say prenups are bs but I've never had millions. And sometimes people have properties that have been in their families for generations & things like that so I can kind of understand needing to protect those.


Quoting KendallsMommee:

I agree.



But if I had millions and finance had nothing, I might feel differently.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Oct. 29, 2013 at 10:21 AM
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I am all for prenuptials. I don't think it lessens the value of a marriage at all. It is good to be prepared and realistic, and to agree on the terms while everyone is still happy. To me, it is no different than a will or an advanced directive, you don't want to have to use it, but it's there if you need it. I think most people who are against prenups tend to not have assets to protect.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Oct. 29, 2013 at 10:24 AM
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I agree, its planning divorce before marriage.and shows lack of trust
B1Bomber
by Ruby Member on Oct. 29, 2013 at 10:27 AM

I wouldn't marry someone who asked for a prenup, not because I'm naive and think divorce never happens (although it is extremely unlikely in our case), but because I wouldn't marry someone who thought so little of my character that he thinks I would go after his money and earnings.

The one exception is previous debt - there are rare circumstances where debt accumulated prior to the relationship can be prevented from falling on stepchildren and such.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Oct. 29, 2013 at 10:28 AM
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The only way I'd agree to a prenup is if it only included what they had before we were married, any money made or property bought during the marriage would have to be counted as a martial asset and subject to division if a divorce were to happen.
CocoSerra
by on Oct. 29, 2013 at 10:30 AM
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I think prenups can be practical but then I've never been asked to sign one.  I suppose there is a bit of a discrepancy between "for better or worse... Til death do us part" and, "Oh hey, just in case this doesn't work out..."

I guess I'm just not qualified to give that question a definitive answer.

Colleen

www.thepickledginger.com

MIA0223
by Emerald Member on Oct. 29, 2013 at 10:30 AM
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No.
in my religion its part of the marriage process.
I don't see the issue. Life isn't certain. We do not live in a Disney princess movie. I think its smart to cover your bases in any situation.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Oct. 29, 2013 at 10:31 AM
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I have fire insurance. I hope I never have to use it. Knowing I have it gives me peace of mind. It's the same principle.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Oct. 29, 2013 at 10:34 AM
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no... considering how communication in marriage breaks down so easily and causes so many to just give up... a prenup is a smart investment not only financially but if there were ever children in the picture. nothing wronv with having a form of protection in case the marriage does not work. 

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