I dont know how much more I can take.. I need real help but find it no where.
i am a mom who needs help. My oldest son was born at 34 weeks, drs made excuses with his delays based on him being born early. i stopped listening at almost 2.5 and had him tested by regional center after Google searching by myself. He was found to be very delayed, he functioned at the level of a 15-18 month old at 2 and a half years old. Regional rushed services in speech, but were unable to in occupational. They said due to his delays they believed it caused his behavioral issues, then he aged out. I requested an IEP through my district as instructed, 5 months past without IEP when my sons head start informed me of my rights , I told the district they had him tested within a week. He had an outburst and the put it off as caused by his speech delays, but then told me his speech delays were not a concern enough to get early intervention, and just keep him in headstart around kids his age, then reevaluate when he is in Kinder. Well my district cut off means no kinder till 6, and they are ignoring my pleas, his head start teacher is concerned by his behavior as well. I am at a loss. He is too old for regional , to young by medi-cal standards for a psych eval, and the district is failing me. He has every symptom and flag of SPD. I dont know what my rights are or how to fight for him.
I tried to get him a psych eval and they told me there is a 6 month waiting list just to be seen by a counselor to decide if you need to be seen, then another 6-12 months before you are seen.
His peditrician ( a new one) is getting a nuro refferal because he wont alert us to when he is in pain, he went 4 days on a broken collar bone, he split his chin 4 times in 2 weeks which required stitches to be re put in. He recently cut open his ankle at school and told no one, the teachers saw his shoe and pant leg covered in blood, and asked him what happened. He runs into walls (perfect eyesight), he can never sit still.
He at 15 months would bang his head till restrained. He throws fits not tantrums but fits which go one of three ways, catatonic , self-harming, or attempts to harm anyone around.
The district is crap here. I have no clue what to do anymore, the district has even ignored his headstarts request. But I shouldnt be surprised, this is the same district that had to be sued after the refused an interpreter to a deaf student.
I love my little boy so much, I just want the best for him, and I know him being ignored isnt the best.
Thank you to all who have replied and gave me some great advice, and to those who have bumped. thanks for anymore adivce . I'll check back tomorrow.