and they she said "why the hell is she even involved in this?!"
Said BM who terminated her parental rights and never raised SD.
Story short: DH and I decided that other family members of ours should ask us before allowing SD to visit BMs family. A slue of issues is going on with them, WE are her parents, and should be notified at the least if a visit is going to take place when we ACTUALLY dropped her of at my MILS or SILS.
DH will NOT speak to BM's mom- SD's grandma. Her and I have a decent relationship and last time I spoke with her I explained that I would be happy to take SD for visits with her (drop off and pick up) just so there's not as much confusion of SDs wherabouts. She understood.
I have been a CSM for 3 years, BM terminated rights over 7 years ago, and my DH works 60+ hours a week.
Is it really necessary for BM to say "who the hell do I think I am to be invloved in this?"
Tell me if I'm wrong. I just see it as- I'm the wife to DH, full time caregiver to SD, and my job is to make sure I take care of mine.
Now I am always cautious not to over step as a SM. But I think in this scenerio it is different. Maybe I'm wrong.