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Could this be molestation???

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So, I have a friend of a friend situation. I'll add more details (which are pretty frightening) if this actually gets feedback. Here goes.

Friend #1 has a bff (friend #2) of 18ish years. I just recently became aquainted with both women. Friend #2 has two children that she has breastfed their entire lives. I'm a breastfeeder myself, so no hate there. The issue is that her children are 8 & 6. The 8 year old breastfed up until she was 7. The 6 year old still breastfeeds at night. The issue is that she doesn't produce milk. That is what is creeping me out. Each night she crawls into bed with her child and the child sucks on her nipples, gets no milk, yet this is still considered breastfeeding? The children have been showing signs of molestation (teaching friend #1's 4 year old about penis', seed(semen) vaginas, playing something called the PeePee game, telling the 4 year old that penis' go inside vaginas etc). I'm a totally free thinking, raise your kid however you see fit kind of person. I'm not even put off by someone breastfeeding their older children. But to me, there seems to be something else going on behind their curtain and it makes me so uneasy and fearful of what might be happening to those children. Thought?

1. The PeePee game. The 4 year old came home and mom was helping her with her bathing. Mom noticed her entire vaginal area was VERY red. Mom starts asking questions and the child says that A and B made her play a game. They called it the PeePee game and child A drew a picture of a penis and cut it out. Each child was told to put it in her panties and rub it as hard as they could.

2. Another thing about the paper penis'. Mom#1 asked more questions to her 4year old and found out that child A(8yo) has an entire stash of them in her room. Tells Mom#2 EXACTLY where to look and M#2 finds them. Then proceeds to say that A swears the 4 year old made them. REALLY?!

3. after M#1 found out about the games, she told her dd to come tell her immediately if they ever ask her to play that game again. I know that it happened again, but I don't fully remember all the details so I'm not going to make assumptions and call them facts for the sake of this post. It happened AGAIN in friend #1's house while she was in the bathroom. The bathroom was down the hall and YES, they are a bit Free Living, so M#1 was peeing with the door open. She heard her 4yo leave the bedroom where she had been playing with the other two girls and go to M#2 and say, "They are trying to make me play that bad game again" and M#2 replied, "God! I wish you would STOP MAKING UP THESE STORIES!" M#1 flew out of the bathroom and was like, WHAT THE HELL?! She is coming to you as an ADULT and that's what you have to say? She is trusting you to protect her! All M#2 had to say was, "I thought you were outside." 

4. In case you didn't read all of the comments, I have replied that the MOTHER HAS STATED THAT SHE "DRIED UP" ABOUT 8 MONTHS AGO. To everyone that doubts that, I would think that a woman who has breastfed her children for 8 years is going to know her body well enough to know if she is really dry. Hell, she could ask her child at this point. I'm pretty sure B can say whether or not she's getting any milk out of there. 

There hasn't been any play dates since, but there is still interaction because of the homeschool co-op situation.


More to come...I'm going to go catch up on the other replies and questions before the next edit.

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 1, 2013 at 6:33 PM
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by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 1, 2013 at 6:53 PM

Quoting lalaboosh:

How does anyone know she's not making milk? It's demand and supply, so unless she is on bc or something else is changing her hormonal balance she's probably making milk. Breastfeeding until the child is done is not molestation, and comfort nursing is part of breastfeeding.

Quoting Snapdragon88:

So you're all for letting 6 yr olds suck on their mom's breasts even though there is no feeding going on?

Quoting lalaboosh:

You need to butt the fuck out.

She has stated that she "Dried up" about 8 months ago.

by on Nov. 1, 2013 at 6:53 PM
Ugh so uncomfortable!!
by Ruby Member on Nov. 1, 2013 at 6:53 PM

uh...idk what I would do. It is odd

by on Nov. 1, 2013 at 6:53 PM

Yeah..that's not quite right....

by on Nov. 1, 2013 at 6:54 PM
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You didn't say that, and if you have a problem with what she does in her home stay away. I really am sick of people making breastfeeding a sexual issue based on the age of the nursling. I may breastfeed my kids until they get their big teeth and I don't want to be judged like this for doing what is healthy according to my research so I'll stick up for other moms in that situation.

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting lalaboosh:

She isn't doing it in front of them, plus breastfeeding a kid until they are ready to stop isn't molestation, so yeah you do need to butt the fuck out. It is not your business and it is not unhealthy.

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting lalaboosh:

You need to butt the fuck out.

We are in a homeschool co-op together and my child is frequently in this womans home, on play dates with this woman and her children, along with participating in many other activities that they are a part of. Butting out isn't quite that simple. But thank you so very much for your constructive thoughts. eye rolling

Yes, yes she does do this infront of people. It's not soley a private thing. She will lounge on the couch and do it if the kid acts like they are tired etc. AND THERE IS NO MILK COMING OUTTTTTTTTT. I am willing to talk for hours about the mountain of inappropriate things that have happened, but if the only thing you can bring to the table is the phrase "Butt the fuck out", I'm not going to waste my time. Thanks!

by Platinum Member on Nov. 1, 2013 at 6:54 PM

Um, you need to talk to someone about this. Like a doctor of some kind, even a pediatrician. They can give you advice on what to do and if you need to report it or not. It seems like there's definitely something going on besides the boob thing, which is disturbing by itself, and I wouldn't recommend you leave your kids with her anymore. 

by Ruby Member on Nov. 1, 2013 at 6:55 PM
That's what I was wondering.

Quoting firespurity:

How is she not making milk if she's breastfed this whole time?
by on Nov. 1, 2013 at 6:55 PM
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I would make a report to CPS and let them investigate further.  Better safe than sorry where kids are involved.

by Anonymous 7 on Nov. 1, 2013 at 6:55 PM
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So the kids are using her as a human pacifier?
Not my thing, but..... She sounds hippy dippy.
Granola mom and very honest with her kids about sex. Does not mean she is abusing them.
by Silver Member on Nov. 1, 2013 at 6:56 PM

I dry nursed my 2 yr old when I was pregnant with her little brother. It's a comfort thing. So no, I don't think dry nursing her 6 yr old is molestation. However the other things might bother me, depending on if the kids kids are actually acting out sexually or not.

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