Worst tantrum ever. I feel like a failure and humiliated
Well we get to the store and pick out a few toys. Then dd 4 starts whining for a toy. After a long day I decide to give in and tell dd 4 and dd5 they each have a $5 limit and tell them what toys are $5 or less. Well dd4 says all those toys are ugly and starts to cry, which then leads dd5 to whine.
I give them a warning and tell them if they don't stop we will go and no bday party tomorrow. They don't listen so I put the toys back and tell them we are leaving.
Dd 4 started to freak out (kicking, screaming, etc) She was in the cart so whatever, but then dd5 starts freaking out, too so I put her in the cart.
We got near the exit, and dd5 literally jumps out of the cart and grabs a pole that is before the exit. She starts screaming that I need to get her and her friend a toy and that I'm a terrible mom. I struggle to get her death grip off the pole, but then she kicks, screams at the top of her lungs, and twists on the floor, all while a HUGE crowd of people watch me.
This girl is strong. I seriously struggled 10 minutes to get her in the cart. The store associate even had to help me.
Dh was at work,and I take them to the store all the time by myself. Dd 4 can be fussy sometimes, but dd 5 is a poster child. She NEVER really throws tantrums, especially in public, so honestly I didn't know how to handle the situation. Needless to say, I un-rsvp'd that party and explained to dd 5 why she can't go.
She did apologize (she said she was so angry and just couldn't control it). I appreciate that she admitted this, but I'm sticking to my guns. However, I feel like a failure. Plus, I have NEVER been so humiliated in my life. What happened to my sweet little girl?
Thanks for everyone's replies, most were extremely helpful. I will point out that I don't believe spanking would have helped the sitation at all, and spanking is something I avoid. I think I was wrong to offer a toy to begin with, but leaving the store and not taking her to the party was the best cobsequence for the behavior. I feel much better about how I handled this situation so thanks everyone!