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MY pregnancy is about him? Edit

Anonymous
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My husband got mad at me last night because my pregnancy shouldn't be about me...it should be about him. I think mostly this stems from I was diagnosed with a  low placenta. And in some cases its advised to refrain from intercourse. And he goes onto how I should give him a bj or do other things to please him because this is unfair to him.....wtf...I just love how its only unfair to him and not me in any way. He has turned off from me completely since then. Barely talks to me, won't spend any time with me and its like living with a roommate. So basically not being able to have sex means no relationship to him....I'm so aggravated and hurt.


Edit...so after a long day of work and trying to distract myself from all this, I tried to talk to him. To no avail it turns into my fault for not doing better. Some of you ladies ask why I don't give him a bj...I am so afraid of being made fun of that I can't bring myself to do it. He makes it a point to tell me how boring I am sexually and not all women are like me. He compares me to porn stars all the time and I just can't take it anymore. I already have enough stress being pregnant and having this complication along with it.

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 2, 2013 at 8:12 AM
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mama0207
by Member on Nov. 2, 2013 at 8:13 AM
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Wow. Your husband is a dick.....
jjames1990
by Platinum Member on Nov. 2, 2013 at 8:14 AM
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Sex is very important on a relationship and men sometimes equate love with sex. Can you two masterbate in front of each other? Other stimulating things?
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 2, 2013 at 8:15 AM
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Quoting mama0207:

Wow. Your husband is a dick.....

That's an insult to dicks.....I don't know what he is anymore.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 2, 2013 at 8:15 AM
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why don't you sit down and have a talk about the sex thing. It's ok that sex is important to him. It's not ok how he's handling this.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 2, 2013 at 8:15 AM
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He refuses to 'do it himself' his logic....he has me so I should take care of that....that doesnt sound loving at all

Quoting jjames1990:

Sex is very important on a relationship and men sometimes equate love with sex. Can you two masterbate in front of each other? Other stimulating things?


abecee
by Platinum Member on Nov. 2, 2013 at 8:16 AM
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he is one immature seflish memememmeme kind of guy. sorry momma.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 2, 2013 at 8:17 AM
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Um, if my DH were acting like that he would definitely not be getting "assistance" from me. How selfish, and acting like a whiny man child. If my DH wanted me to do something for him like that, he better be acting nice to me and not treating me like an enemy and acting distant. I can't blame you!

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 2, 2013 at 8:21 AM
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Women don't exactly get turned on or start to feel like doing him a sexual favor when a man is a jerk. If my DH wants that he knows treating me like shit isn't the way to go about it. Obviously people also see respect as a trait of love too..The right kind of affection or not enough can make it or break it with a woman too. 

Quoting jjames1990:

Sex is very important on a relationship and men sometimes equate love with sex. Can you two masterbate in front of each other? Other stimulating things?


grannie_kel
by Silver Member on Nov. 2, 2013 at 8:25 AM
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I hope that you are not planning to stick around and raise the baby with that childish asshole.  I'll agree that sex is an important part of a relationship but if he is willing to treat you like shit over this, the love in your marriage is 1 sided. 

luvmykidsJC
by Gold Member on Nov. 2, 2013 at 8:26 AM
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Would you want to do anything sexually with someone who has basically shown you that without sex, you have no relationship?

I just went through this 16 weeks and my placenta was no. So no sex until that changed, DH wasn't an ass to me about it, neither of us were thrilled or anything but he wouldn't dare take it out on me.

OP know that this can change, 4 weeks ago, I had placenta previa, now the position has changed and I don't have it.



Quoting jjames1990:

Sex is very important on a relationship and men sometimes equate love with sex. Can you two masterbate in front of each other? Other stimulating things?



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