I need to vent, My ex is more concerned that his relationship is over then leaving the kids with a sexual predator
I have 2 girls with my ex, they are 8 and almost 11. I have what's called right of first refusal in the court order, basically, it means that if for any amount of time, he is not going to be with the girls he has to call me and ask if I can take them before having someone else watch them or leave them alone. I have told him that if he wants to send them with his parents, let me know, just so I know where they are, but I would not enforce it with them, if he wants to give up his time to his parents, fine, they are better cared for with them anyway.
But last night, I got a call from my DDs saying that dad had left them with his fiance's parents and brother and they were spending the night there (the brother is in his 20s and lives with them). I don't know these people and I was not OK with this and as I said, I have right of first refusal. I checked the CPS on her phone and got the address, me and DH came right away to get them (thankfully, my mom lives down the street so she came over to sit without other two who were in bed).
We got there and knocked on the door. Her dad answered, I explained who I was, the fact that I have ROFR and that I want my chldren, I had the court order in had. He said no and slammed the door in my face. I knocked again and said that if my girls were not sent out to me in 60 seconds, would call the police. I put 60 seconds on my timer, that time came and went so I called the police.
The police got there but there were very rushed, like they were there in 2 or 3 minutes and came running to the door, before they got to the door another cop car showed up and before long, there were 6 cars, 10 cops in the yard. I started panicking, I didn't know what was going on but I KNEW something was going on that I didn't know about.
Well the parents said they weren't sending the girls out because their dad left them with them. The police broke the door down and seconds later came out with my girls then another two with a younger man who turned out to be the fiance's brother in handcuffs.
It was explained to me and DH that the brother was a child predator and with him living in the house, the girls shouldn't have even been allowed in, let alone to spend the night. The parents said they thought that since it's not his house, it's theirs it was fine, that it would only be if it was legally his house.
My girls are fine, they were not touch in any way but if they had spent the night, that might have been a different story, thank God they had the sense to call me.
The police told me that my ex will probably face a child endangerment charges. I called my attorney (at 9 pm but he said if something serious happens call him day or night on his cell) and he is going to the Clerk of Court today to file a motion to have visitation suspended, a motion to find him in contempt of court and a couple other things.
My ex called me last night, we had just gotten home and I guess they had just gotten to his parents house as we left. He wasn't concerned about our girls or the danger he put them in, he was calling to bitch me out because I ruined his life. His fiance' called off their engagement because her brother will probably have to do another few years of jail time. He also found out that he is going to be arrested and charged with child endangerment (the cops had left by then but they know where he lives and where he works so it won't be long) and so he is freaking out
I am just so mad that this happened and that on top of that, my ex doesn't even care about the girls and what could have happened to them..