So my son, he's got a listening problem. He's four, it isnt shocking. He also like to use the computer, and always "forgets" to ask. I'm working on that. But I feel DH has taken it too far. Maybe not, I'll ask your opinion. Im sorry if im not concise
Im outside with the dog this morning, and DS comes running outside crying. "Im so sorry for x-ing out of your stuff mom" and carrying my tablet. I thought he'd broken it for crying out loud the way he was blubbering on about it. I told him, when I figured out what happened that him xing out of my stuff wasnt the problem, it was him using it without asking. And that he needed to go sit in time out for not asking permission. That if he'd wanted to play with a tablet he needed to use his own (with safety locks and all that, *side note* it was a gift/handmedown from his grandfather before anyone jumps on me for buying a tablet for a four year old)
He also had a fit yesterday because he jumped on the computer and exited out of cafemom while I was making dinner. Again, that isnt the issue, it is that he doesnt ask permission. I explained that to him and he had a time out for not asking permission, but I told him what it was for and explained that I could get back into what I was doing, but he didnt ask permission and that was the problem.
He's doing this because DH plays online fighting games and DH will freak out majorly if anyone gets near his (well, its MINE, but he's commandeereed it) laptop and once (maybe more, but once while I was here) DS got on there and exited out of his game and wanted to type. (DH was outside smoking, then planning to do some stuff around the house, he wasnt planning on using it again for a bit) DH sent him to time out and then upstairs and was screaming at him for several minutes, specifically for x-ing out of the game, til I was finally able to interject and be like WTF is your problem, I had told him he could for a minute and *I* assumed since DH wasnt using the computer we could exit out. He had asked permission!!!!
I am well aware that DS should ask permission before he gets on our devices or the computers. But it isnt something he needs to freak out about, and DH is making it something he feels like he should be overly sorry for.