you CHOSE to be a single mom! STOP ACTING LIKE A MARTYR!!!
First of all this is not for the ladies that had no choice in the circumstances that led them to be a single mom. Or the ladies whom if the Father was involved would be a danger to the child i.e. drugs, abusive... etc.
My best friend is an absolutely wonderful man and hard worker. He had an ex who essentially used him to get pregnant and told him how much she wanted to have a baby, how wonderful it would be to be parents, and how great it would be to raise a child together. She got pregnant and broke up with him. She eventually started saying that he was a horrible person and could never raise a child. He begged her all through her pregnancy to let him come to appts with her, to let him see her, to let him see an ultrasound. She told him he would never see the child and that he shouldn't have even told his parents about the baby because he would never be a part of its life. He was/ is heartbroken. He eventually backed off after she threatened to go to the police about him and told her he would always be there if she changed her mind about wanting him in their life. He started putting money away during her pregnancy to help with doctor costs/ child costs once the baby was born. Fastforward and the baby is now a little over a year. He's saved over 5,000 so far for this baby and is still waiting for the phone call that she wants him to meet his daughter. He calls once a month to ask to meet her. Now we hear via social media and mutual friends that she is sharing her "story of being a single mom and being left to have a baby by herself". She's actually speaking to groups and telling them how hard she had it when her baby's father abandoned her and how horrible of a person he is for not sticking with her/ doing drugs/ being irresponsible when in reality it was the complete opposite. He begged her to stop smoking once she was pregnant, she didn't (cigs or other drugs), he absolutely begged her to marry him so they could be a family, and she laughed in his face. It's amazing she has the audacity to play the hero for being a single mom when he has only done what she's told him to, stay the hell away.
Ladies, If a man is TRULY bad for your CHILD, fine, It's a good thing to not have them in their lives, but honestly, If you are keeping the father away for your benefit, because you just don't want him to or you want to cause him pain, You are a SELFISH WITCH. Your child will grow up without both of their parents because it inconveniences you. Even if you just don't want to be in a relationship with the father and have a new significant other, Make sure the FATHER is still a part of his kids life. His child could grow up thinking they weren't important enough or their father was a horrrible person when in fact he's hurting to see his child.
After hearing this my best friend has decided to go for the paternity test and get all of this started in courts. He didn't want to pressure his ex or make the child go through hell but he's hurting to be a part of his baby girl's life. He came from a broken home where all his mother did was bash his father and he wanted to save her from that.