I'm a single stay @ home mom, never been married and have 2 boys ages 6 & 9. I'm in love w/ a married man whom I have known for 7 yrs(I used to work w/ him)who has 2 kids of his own(one a teenager and one who is around 11). He's not happy w/ his wife of 17 yrs and has NOT been "physically" involved w/ her for sometime now. He's basically staying bcuz of his kids and is afraid to divorce her bcuz of the effect it would have on her and them, including his family. We have recently developed a close relationship and see each other often and have been intimate on some occasions. We practically have everything in common and get along REALLY well. He comes over and visits often and my kids love him to pieces and are ALWAYS asking about him when he's not here. When he is here w/ us, it's like we are a family like it's supposed to be(I haven't been involved w/ my kids' dads for quite some time now and never married them for good reasons and to make matters worse, my oldest son's dad has been in a mental hospital for 6 yrs now and my youngest son does NOT know who his dad is). He's told me he loves me and my kids very much as do I and has told me I mean "everything" to him and that I'm "his" woman...Ik I'm the "other woman" and I told him I can't live like that forever and that if he REALLY wants to be w/ me that bad then he needs to act on it and leave her. I've tried letting him go 2x over the past yr and try to move on w/ someone else but no matter what I do, I can't do it. I have been hurt so much in my other past relationships and Ik he would never do that to me. He's getting me a promise ring but I'm still scared that the situation won't change. He's even told me that I make him "happy" as he does me and I've even come out several times and asked him to marry me-I'm trying to make the best of as bad situation and want to continue to try to "hang in there" and be "patient" even tho he knows how I'm feeling about this whole thing-he has mentioned that IF the solution "presents" itself that we would get married. He's a GREAT dad and responsible, has a job and takes care of his kids. I want to have a baby w/ him(I've been wanting a girl soooooo bad). I can't help being in love w/ him the way I am and never want to let him go whenever we are in each other's arms. He feels the EXACT same way on everything I have written here-should I give him a "timeline" for us to be completely together or continue to be patient and wait for him?
on Nov. 3, 2013 at 5:13 PM