Well it was a hard situation for me, I was close to my dad. Didn't really get along with my mother. He was the rock of our family and kept it together. When I lost him, I lost a part of myself. It took me years to face the fact he's not coming back. Well his "family" has been the worst I've ever seen. They just shut us out and refused to have anything to do with us. I'm not going to lie, it HURT and still does. But my main concern was my younger sister. She will never know what it's like to have a close family.
Through the years I've tried to reach out and I've been ignored, or they would call me the devil. I will never understand what I did for there to be so much hate. Well my older sister got pregnant and then my aunt sends her a friend request on fb. She found out about it from my uncle (he's not blood). Nobody else got one. Then I got pregnant and what do you know, I get one. I didn't add her. I did send her a message. All it boils down to is she wants to be nosey.
Then this year after no contact with these people my uncle died (one who told them about the pregnancies). We left as soon as we got the call. But we didn't get there in time he was already gone. So we stayed there for a week. Guess who comes over...my dads family. They then acted like everything was ok. Like we are just one big happy family.
They (dads brother and sil) now want to have a relationship with us. I for one refuse. There has been comments made about my children because of their race. I do not and will not tolerate it. So now I'm the bad person. My mother and sister are all for them to come back in their lives. But since I refuse I'm the bad guy. I feel like I'm doing right by my children and myself. Even if there wasn't any racial remarks I still wouldn't.
who's to say they won't walk out again and this time my kids are hurt? What would you do in this situation? I'm starting to second guess myself, thanks to my mother.
Oh I should also add my dads parents still want nothing to do with us.