Do I have a right to be upset? (Please no bashing) I need female opinions
I'll make this as short and simple as possible. My boyfriend is in a bad situation with his babymama, right now she basically has the power over their daughter until he can get to court. (Which will be soon because he's moving in at my moms to save up money before we move in together).
So just a couple of week ago she was being crazy, saying how he would never see his daughter again and blah blah blah. He hasn't seen her that much due to her crazziness. It's just this cycle. Well now she wants to get back together with him and is doing everything in her power to make that happen. Well he doesn't want to be mean about putting her down because she's let him see his daughter a lot recently (which i'm thrilled about) but i'm not happy that she keeps hitting on him and disrespecting me. (oh yeah, she doesn't know me but I'm not allowed to meet their daughter)
So this weekend my boyfriend went out to the bar to celebrate a friends birthday and he ended up telling her so she went to the same bar. They spent most of the night together and she conned him into thinking that she couldn't go home cause she was too drunk, car wasn't working right, ect. And he was too drunk too so I guess somehow they were dropped off at his place and she spent the night in his bed while he slept on the floor. He told me that he yelled at her to not try anything but I feel like this is really disrespectful for me because he keeps getting in situations were she will hit on him. And this is over and over again, even when he tell her he loves me and is all about me. And not to mention, the next day he took off of work to spend the day at her house with their daughter. I'm not used to this because for as long as I've known him she's been doing everything in her power to get him upset and not see his daughter and now he's sucking up to her and she keeps making moves.
He called me to update me with everything but he left the bar/over night thing out until I told him I was upset about the other details (Yes, theirs more lol) and then he told me. He swears nothing happend and he would never cheat on me but I feel like he crossed the line with the bar/over night thing. Am I wrong to feel this way? I love him more then anything and I feel like he might be the one but this whole situation is really worrying me. I don't know if I should just step away from it so he can dedicated all his time for his daughter or what...
He told me he's willing to do what I want about this whole ordeal, so would I be wrong to ask him not to spend any time around the babymama? (except family things.) I don't want to be that crazy girlfriend that only thinks of herself but I'm not willing to be constantly disrespected.
Please be nice about this, because i've been really wrestling with this as it is. So am I wrong to be upset? Am I over reacting? Should I step out of the way so he can suck up to her so he can see his daughter more?
Sorry for it being so long. Thanks to all the nice be in advance.