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My DD is 20 months old. She has always gone to bed at 7-7:30&up at 7. Now she gets up at 4am. I'm exhausted and I have tried everything. She just won't go back to bed! I keep hee up till 8-9, but it doesn't matter. Actually the days shes up later it seems she gets up more often. She only naps once a day for an hour or so. I've tried the whole explaining to her she needs to stay in bed till the sun comes out, got one of those nights lights that changed color at a certain time&she doesn't seem to understand that. I've tried getting her to lay down in my bed, everything. I'm exhausted. I don't understand why she won't sleep! She has never had an issue sleeping, and this is really wearing me out. If she actually would fall back asleep it wouldn't be so bad, but she won't. She refuses to lay back down no matter what I do. Please help! Have any of your kids gone through this? I really need to know I'm not the only one here. I feel so alone, hubby works a lot and its just me here all day most days. 4am wouldn't seem so bad but I work from 9-11 every night so I am not even in bed till midnight, and 4hrs of sleep is not enough for a pregnant momma lol. Also she is tired, by 9am she wants a nap and then she will be tired again by 2-3, and is just overall cranky as hell. Anyway, any help? I'm at a loss of what to do!
Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 6, 2013 at 5:52 AM
Replies (21-30):
Syphon
by on Nov. 6, 2013 at 7:14 AM
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Sleep begets sleep.  Add another nap or put her in bed earlier.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 6, 2013 at 8:32 AM
Adding another nap might work, I haven't tried that yet. Thanks for your advice!


Quoting Syphon:

Sleep begets sleep.  Add another nap or put her in bed earlier.


wife-4-life
by on Nov. 6, 2013 at 9:35 AM
Yeah. She is probably still to young to comprehend the light thing. I know my 27month old wouldn't get it. Sounds like the crib is your best option.

I'm sorry it's difficult. We all go thru. So you're not alone. I hope it gets better!


Quoting Anonymous:

Her room is child proofed but we can't do a gate or anything (condo, the door frames are seriously weird and we can't attach anything to them). And we tried the night light clock thing that gets sunny at like 6am and bright so she knows she can come out, but it didn't work. She just would come right out anyway. I think we are going to try switching back to the crib, because this is craziness lol.




Quoting wife-4-life:

Maybe let her get up and play in her room (if it's hold proofed and safe to). That's what we are doing with my dd1 now. I put an alarm clock in her room and set it for 6am. I tell her she has to stay in her room until it goes off. She usually gets up around 5am to go potty and goes back to her room to play.





Quoting Anonymous:

I've tried :( I've done later bedtime, no naps, everything. She isn't in a crib anymore and I'm so tempted to go back to the crib at this point. But I don't think she will switch back well, and I don't want to go through a huge battle to get her back in the crib. Or have her try to get out and hurt herself :(








Quoting wife-4-life:

This.









I have gone through this with my older two, ages 2 & 3 now. In fact, dd1 is doing this right now. When dd1 was younger, she stayed in bed and played till it was time to get up. Dd2 had to "learn" to do this because she'd always wake up crying. She got used to playing when she wakes up now.










Quoting SageAdvice:

 First if you have a set schedulestick with it if possible. Also just because she wakes up at 4 am doesn't mean you have to get her up - babies are able to comfort themselves and play in their crib till it's time to rise for the day ( of course make sure she's dry and not hungry but once that's done return her to bed and let her entertain herself till time to get up ) They first few days she might cry and whine, but in time she will learn to play quietly or go back to sleep till it's time to get up.






If all else fails make her regular bedtime an hour or 2 later than normal -






but I'm all for allowing them to learn to entertain themselves or babble themselves back to sleep :o)






Gasp - shocking to many I know, but I raised happy children who feel loved and have always felt safe and content, better yet they don't expect others to entertain them every waking minute - they learned to do so themselves. . :o)






 






I also did the same for bed time, bath, reading , snuggles then a set bed time, they played quietly in their beds and babbled till they fell asleep on their own.



Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 7, 2013 at 4:13 PM
Thank you :) I appreciate it! We are setting it back up tonight and hopefully it goes well :)


Quoting wife-4-life:

Yeah. She is probably still to young to comprehend the light thing. I know my 27month old wouldn't get it. Sounds like the crib is your best option.



I'm sorry it's difficult. We all go thru. So you're not alone. I hope it gets better!




Quoting Anonymous:

Her room is child proofed but we can't do a gate or anything (condo, the door frames are seriously weird and we can't attach anything to them). And we tried the night light clock thing that gets sunny at like 6am and bright so she knows she can come out, but it didn't work. She just would come right out anyway. I think we are going to try switching back to the crib, because this is craziness lol.






Quoting wife-4-life:

Maybe let her get up and play in her room (if it's hold proofed and safe to). That's what we are doing with my dd1 now. I put an alarm clock in her room and set it for 6am. I tell her she has to stay in her room until it goes off. She usually gets up around 5am to go potty and goes back to her room to play.







Quoting Anonymous:

I've tried :( I've done later bedtime, no naps, everything. She isn't in a crib anymore and I'm so tempted to go back to the crib at this point. But I don't think she will switch back well, and I don't want to go through a huge battle to get her back in the crib. Or have her try to get out and hurt herself :(










Quoting wife-4-life:

This.











I have gone through this with my older two, ages 2 & 3 now. In fact, dd1 is doing this right now. When dd1 was younger, she stayed in bed and played till it was time to get up. Dd2 had to "learn" to do this because she'd always wake up crying. She got used to playing when she wakes up now.












Quoting SageAdvice:

 First if you have a set schedulestick with it if possible. Also just because she wakes up at 4 am doesn't mean you have to get her up - babies are able to comfort themselves and play in their crib till it's time to rise for the day ( of course make sure she's dry and not hungry but once that's done return her to bed and let her entertain herself till time to get up ) They first few days she might cry and whine, but in time she will learn to play quietly or go back to sleep till it's time to get up.







If all else fails make her regular bedtime an hour or 2 later than normal -







but I'm all for allowing them to learn to entertain themselves or babble themselves back to sleep :o)







Gasp - shocking to many I know, but I raised happy children who feel loved and have always felt safe and content, better yet they don't expect others to entertain them every waking minute - they learned to do so themselves. . :o)







 







I also did the same for bed time, bath, reading , snuggles then a set bed time, they played quietly in their beds and babbled till they fell asleep on their own.




Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Nov. 7, 2013 at 4:16 PM

Okay this seems like an easy fix. Put her to bed later and she will get up later.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Nov. 8, 2013 at 6:55 AM
If only it were that easy. She already said she tried that and she is still waking up just as early. And that never worked with my kids. So if it worked with yours, what's the secret, lol!!!???

Quoting Anonymous:

Okay this seems like an easy fix. Put her to bed later and she will get up later.

indymom72
by Silver Member on Nov. 8, 2013 at 7:11 AM

now I'm old school, but I would just keep marching her right back to her room and putting her in bed.  Don't talk to her,  put her in her bed and walk out of the room.   Eventually she will figure it out.  She's figured out if she throws a big enough fit she gets her way.  Yes,you'll be tired for a few more nights, but it will be worth it.  Put your foot down. 

KlineMomma11
by on Nov. 8, 2013 at 8:41 AM
I'll try this. I struggle too, my. Two year old STILL wants milk at night and now my 1 year old is following that habit too... At different times if the night! Ahhh!


Quoting SageAdvice:

 First if you have a set schedulestick with it if possible. Also just because she wakes up at 4 am doesn't mean you have to get her up - babies are able to comfort themselves and play in their crib till it's time to rise for the day ( of course make sure she's dry and not hungry but once that's done return her to bed and let her entertain herself till time to get up ) They first few days she might cry and whine, but in time she will learn to play quietly or go back to sleep till it's time to get up.


If all else fails make her regular bedtime an hour or 2 later than normal -


but I'm all for allowing them to learn to entertain themselves or babble themselves back to sleep :o)


Gasp - shocking to many I know, but I raised happy children who feel loved and have always felt safe and content, better yet they don't expect others to entertain them every waking minute - they learned to do so themselves. . :o)


 


I also did the same for bed time, bath, reading , snuggles then a set bed time, they played quietly in their beds and babbled till they fell asleep on their own.


SageAdvice
by on Nov. 8, 2013 at 9:21 AM

 Ah, milks bad at night, it stays on their teeth.

 I always made my children a glass of water to have by their bed. That was it after lights out. They were able to get it themselves and that stopped all the getting up, Mom I'm thirsty - which generally meant they were up for 15 to 3 mins. That way they had no excuse to leave their room, nor wake up the house, they simply drank it and went right back to sleep.

:o)

 

Quoting KlineMomma11:

I'll try this. I struggle too, my. Two year old STILL wants milk at night and now my 1 year old is following that habit too... At different times if the night! Ahhh!


Quoting SageAdvice:

 First if you have a set schedulestick with it if possible. Also just because she wakes up at 4 am doesn't mean you have to get her up - babies are able to comfort themselves and play in their crib till it's time to rise for the day ( of course make sure she's dry and not hungry but once that's done return her to bed and let her entertain herself till time to get up ) They first few days she might cry and whine, but in time she will learn to play quietly or go back to sleep till it's time to get up.


If all else fails make her regular bedtime an hour or 2 later than normal -


but I'm all for allowing them to learn to entertain themselves or babble themselves back to sleep :o)


Gasp - shocking to many I know, but I raised happy children who feel loved and have always felt safe and content, better yet they don't expect others to entertain them every waking minute - they learned to do so themselves. . :o)


 


I also did the same for bed time, bath, reading , snuggles then a set bed time, they played quietly in their beds and babbled till they fell asleep on their own.


 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 10, 2013 at 9:03 PM
Lol, I want to know the secret too!! I kept her up until 10, and she was up at 3. Every time I move her bedtime to later she is up earlier lol.


Quoting Anonymous:

If only it were that easy. She already said she tried that and she is still waking up just as early. And that never worked with my kids. So if it worked with yours, what's the secret, lol!!!???



Quoting Anonymous:

Okay this seems like an easy fix. Put her to bed later and she will get up later.


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