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Mom’s Stance on Coddled Kids Is One We All Need to Hear - Do you agree with her?

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Mom’s Controversial Stance on Coddled Kids Is One We All Need to Hear

by Kiri Blakeley

A mother named Stephanie Metz has hit a nerve with her blog post titled "Why My Kids Are NOT the Center of the World." In it, she has some pointed things to say about the kinds of kids we are bringing up now -- ones who think the world centers around them, who believe that mommy and daddy will always be there to spare them any pain or difficulty, and who are, in fact, probably not very well equipped to  controversial.handle the bumps and bruises that life is bound to throw their way. I think we need to listen carefully to what this mom of two boys has to say, because she is dead on. Some of it, however, is pretty controversial.

Stephanie writes:

Modern parenting and thinking makes me crazy. The young generations of today (yes, I sound old. I realize I'm only 29 years old.) are being taught that they shouldn't have to ever put up with anything doesn't make their hearts feel like rainbow colored unicorns are running around pooping skittles onto piles of marshmallows. Modern parenting is creating a generation that's not going to be able to function in society.

Oh, my goodness. So true. And it's actually very scary. In my opinion, a lot of the gun violence we see today -- like the LAX shooter, and the New Jersey Paramus Mall shooter, are young troubled men who couldn't handle life. Couldn't handle not always getting what they wanted; couldn't handle life not always being "fair" to them. Sure, mental illness could be involved. But we seek around for clues to mental illness and conveniently ignore the fact that most of the men who have gone on shooting sprees were also supremely unhappy. You can find them in any school, any vocation, any town.

Unhappy because life isn't what they expected. Life isn't like what their parents told them it would be -- parents who storm into schools demanding special treatment for their kids; who sue anyone who looks at them wrong. Stephanie continues:

Your child, who you cater to every need, who you shelter from all things "evil." How will this child react when he or she grows into adulthood? "Debbie" graduates from high school and goes to college. She writes her first paper and meets with her professor about that paper and the professor tells her that it's junk and it will get a failing grade. How will Debbie cope with that if she's always been made to feel that no one should ever make her feel sad, or criticize anything she does?

"Donna" graduates from college and gets a job -- you know, in the real world. She has to work on a committee to come up with a marketing plan. She shoots out an idea, and it gets immediately turned down. What is she to do? Go home and cry because no one liked her idea? Quit her job because she can't handle rejection?

Well, exactly. Children need to learn how to deal with uncomfortable feelings, and if they never learn that -- never learn how to self-soothe, how to ride tumultuous thoughts, and that anger and humiliation dissipate and that it isn't the end of the world if someone thinks you're stupid or ugly -- then they just aren't going to know how to deal when life inevitably throws some shit their way. They then turn to alcohol, prescription drugs, or even violence or suicide.

Some of what Stephanie says is a bit controversial -- such as the fact that bullying is normal, and that teenage girls shouldn't be punished for acting like teenage girls. I disagree. I'm glad bullying is finally getting some attention and not just seen as an acceptable part of childhood as it did when I was young. However, I do think that more attention should be paid to teaching kids how to constructively handle bullying and the ensuing negative emotions, rather than just focusing on zero tolerance for the bullier.

Stephanie concludes with some gems of wisdom, saying:

These gentlemen [her boys] will understand that there are about a gazillion people in this world. While they are incredibly special to me and my family, they are not special to the world.  That probably sounds terrible, but people! It's the harsh truth, and it needs embraced!

Amen, Stephanie. Preach, girl.

Do you agree with what Stephanie is saying?

by on Nov. 8, 2013 at 9:28 AM
Replies (231-234):
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Nov. 12, 2013 at 8:23 AM

Honey, I stopped being a girl a long time ago.  Maybe when you stop being one you might understand more.  Good luck with that.  Have a nice life.big smile mini

Quoting jessi2girls:

Says the girl who wrote what you did below....

Quoting Anonymous:

 You really have no idea what you are talking about, do you?  Please stop using words that you don't understand. 

Quoting jessi2girls:

No dear it wasn't! lol. It was a generalized statement, followed by a poor attempt to showcase irony, and done in the manner that you did, just came off making you sound very ignorant, rather than sarcastic. 



Quoting Anonymous:

 Yes, it was.  Clearly.

 

Quoting jessi2girls:

In the context you used it in, it wasn't irony. 

Quoting Anonymous:

 Obviously you are not a student of irony!  If you were you would understand what I wrote, which you clearly do not.

 

Quoting jessi2girls:

A blog is just someone on the internet no different from you, or I, or Pinkbutterfly! Certainly not an expert either!

The fact that you call it crap and then say the same thing as pink butterfly just screams out your ignorance!

Quoting Anonymous:

This is crap.  I love how people think just because they are on the internet they are an expert on something. 

 

Quoting PinkButterfly66:

She's an idiot.   The gun violence we see today is either because of lack of parental involvement (aka gang related violence) or mental illness.  I love how people think that just because they have a blog, they're an expert on something.

 

 


 

 


 

 


 

 



 

jessi2girls
by Ruby Member on Nov. 12, 2013 at 9:12 AM

grandma, get your eyes checked and don't forget to take your meds for you Alzheimer's. 

Quoting Anonymous:

Honey, I stopped being a girl a long time ago.  Maybe when you stop being one you might understand more.  Good luck with that.  Have a nice life.big smile mini

Quoting jessi2girls:

Says the girl who wrote what you did below....

Quoting Anonymous:

 You really have no idea what you are talking about, do you?  Please stop using words that you don't understand. 

Quoting jessi2girls:

No dear it wasn't! lol. It was a generalized statement, followed by a poor attempt to showcase irony, and done in the manner that you did, just came off making you sound very ignorant, rather than sarcastic. 



Quoting Anonymous:

 Yes, it was.  Clearly.


Quoting jessi2girls:

In the context you used it in, it wasn't irony. 

Quoting Anonymous:

 Obviously you are not a student of irony!  If you were you would understand what I wrote, which you clearly do not.


Quoting jessi2girls:

A blog is just someone on the internet no different from you, or I, or Pinkbutterfly! Certainly not an expert either!

The fact that you call it crap and then say the same thing as pink butterfly just screams out your ignorance!

Quoting Anonymous:

This is crap.  I love how people think just because they are on the internet they are an expert on something. 


Quoting PinkButterfly66:

She's an idiot.   The gun violence we see today is either because of lack of parental involvement (aka gang related violence) or mental illness.  I love how people think that just because they have a blog, they're an expert on something.
















Anonymous
by Anonymous 35 on Nov. 14, 2013 at 5:42 PM

Absolutely this!


Quoting Mackenzie40:

Article is stupid. First of all deveomentally children aren't capable of understanding they aren't the center of the world. Parents need to love their children unconditionally . They are suppose yo be their cheerleaders and wipers of tears . This is what creates children who develop into self assured adults confident in their abilities .



Anonymous
by Anonymous 37 on Nov. 14, 2013 at 5:52 PM
I do agree bad to a point with the bullying.

I appraising tobwomen that have to stand in their own tho feet one day not have meltdowns just cuz someone looked at them funny. The hard part is that the school does cater to them and they expect it at home. Not in my house. They need to learn they don't get everything they want and be able to deal with it.
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