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Found condoms in DH's truck. *SMALL UPDATE 1*NEW UPDATE 11/10

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
Okay he just left so I am letting the tears flow and shaking so know this will be a scattered and grammatical disasterous post.

We decided to STOP buying condoms last month when we used the last one out of that box since I am now on Depo (yes I know BC isn't 100% but if we did get pregnant it wouldn't be a bad thing!).

The past 3 months have been like CLOCKWORK; DH comes home for lunch at 11, checks the mail and brings it inside and then goes to the bathroom. Well today (he occasionally works on Sat.), he didn't bring any mail inside. I figured he forgot. He came inside and kissed the top of my head and went into the bathroom. I decided to go outside and look in his truck for the mail since I've been expecting something from ETSY to arrive.

There was an open box of condoms in the center console and 3 out of 10 were missing. THREE.

I pulled myself together and went back in the house to make his lunch. I didn't say anything much, just asked if we had any mail and he said no not today. He kept asking me what was wrong and I just told him I didn't feel good. He kissed my cheek and left.. my DS (4yo) is with my mom today so I just let it all out.

I have no idea what to thinj or say or feel. I am just so lost. We have been almost married for a year!!!

*SMALL UPDATE*: He text me and said "stopping by W's after work" I said "okay have fun:) love you!" and he didn't reply. W is a friend of both of ours; I want to call W, ask what he is doing and see if he will come over to help me set up a sweet husband suprise for DH but to NOT tell him. I'm not sure what I need to do.. He will be off at 5.

UPDATE 11/10: I AM SO SORRY I HAVE BEEN A GHOST. I just put DS down for a nap. I am at my mom's and have been since yesterday. Around 5:15 I called W. I asked him if he had heard from DH because I couldn't get through to him on his phone and I needed to know what he wanted for dinner(idea of a commenter, thank you!) AND HE SAID NO, I JUST GOT HOME FROM FLORIDA LIKE AN HOUR AGO. I said "oh okay well if you hear something please let me know." He said alright and we hung up. I sat there in silence. I couldn't even CRY anymore. At about 6, DH gets home and goes straight to the bathroom (he has been doing this for a while now after coming home) so I just ran outside to look in his truck and the box of condoms were gone. I came back in the house and shortly after, he came out of the bathroom. I asked him how W was and he said he was good and that they lost track of time and apologized for being late. I told him it was fine and asked what he wanted for dinner. After he told me, I went to the bathroom and texted W to ask if he has heard from DH, he said no and that he'd try calling him. Before I could reply, I heard his phone ringing. So I ran back into the kitchen and asked DH who it was on the phone and when he said his mom, I flipped. I said NO IT IS NOT YOUR MOM. IT IS W ASKING IF YOU ARE OKAY SINCE YOU WERENT AT HIS HOUSE EARLIER LIKE YOU SAID YOU'D BE. YOU HAVE ONE CHANCE TO TELL ME WHERE THE HELL YOU WERE. He hung up and just stared at me. Then yelled about how i got his best friend to turn against him and he said i am cheating on your stupid ass because you do nothing for me anymore.
I just stared at , him i literally have no tears left. So I am at my mom's now and he hasn't called/text since.
Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 9, 2013 at 11:30 AM
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Miller0305
by Platinum Member on Nov. 9, 2013 at 11:42 AM
You're nuts.

Quoting Jammin.:

I oughta punch the shit outta you for that. If only I knew where you were.




Quoting fairyjester:

well atleast he is trying to be careful not to bring home any disease to you


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kitty8199
by Ruby Member on Nov. 9, 2013 at 11:43 AM
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Snooping? They're married. It's her truck too. Community property.

Quoting Anonymous:

It's your fault cuz you snooped through his truck. Duh.

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 9 on Nov. 9, 2013 at 11:43 AM
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I am not sure if not saying anything right away was brave or foolish. I know for sure that I would have totally flipped my shit and said something, box in hand.

 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 10 on Nov. 9, 2013 at 11:43 AM

Gotta ask him

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 9, 2013 at 11:43 AM
We don't have a good one right now. :/


Quoting J-KsMommy:

They could be a friend of his, or they could be left over that she forgot about. If you have a good marriage why would you instantly assume an affair.




Quoting Anonymous:

Could be nothing? Who keeps a box of condoms in their truck with 3 missing for nothing?





Quoting J-KsMommy:

Ask him. Don't go nuts it could be nothing.


chalisa0
by Ruby Member on Nov. 9, 2013 at 11:43 AM
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So, you only stopped buying condoms a month ago?  And you're freaked out because he didn't bring in the mail?  Do you see how paranoid this sounds?  The box in his truck could be from before when you did use them (a whole month ago.)  And you had no mail.  That is not suspicious-unless you think your mail carrier is stealing it.  This is silly.  Talk to him!  His behavior sounds to me like a man who is still happily married.  I'll bet you're freaking out over absolutely nothing.

princessmama14
by on Nov. 9, 2013 at 11:44 AM

Id tell him what you saw and give him one chance to explain. Do it in person though so you can see how he reacts. It could be an old box or something could be going on, good luck and lots of hugs!

Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Nov. 9, 2013 at 11:44 AM
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Seriously... -.-

What's with the go to line of "Well at least he..." when men are doing something wrong. You act like he is noble and thinking about his wife. That probably didn't even cross his mind, he's probably afraid of being a baby daddy to his side woman..

Quoting fairyjester:

well atleast he is trying to be careful not to bring home any disease to you


mileysmom331
by Silver Member on Nov. 9, 2013 at 11:44 AM



Quoting Anonymous:

Sorry. I'd say keep your child with G'ma today and confront him when he gets home.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 9 on Nov. 9, 2013 at 11:45 AM
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I would have walked back into the house with the box and told him, "you need to call work and tell him you won't be back today".

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