1. BM says not to give them juice, it gives them diarrhea. They all have problems with constipation, so badly that recently one of them was throwing up his waste from being so backed up. They eat a steady diet of processed junk, no fruits or vegetables and she doesn't cook. So, I give them juice when they're here. No diarrhea...but they are able to poop. Miraculous.
2. She doesn't like for me to wash their clothes. They don't look "new" anymore after being washed. They wear the same thing for a week before she'll wash it. They wipe their noses and faces on their shirts. They're always sick with something. One time, they broke out in sores on their faces. So, I wash their clothes.
3. They're allowed to watch "grown up" shows at home. I don't allow them to watch them here. They're children. If I don't let my own watch it, I won't let them. There are things that although I know they don't understand, I'd rather not have them walking around repeating.
4. I don't let them eat whatever they want whenever they want. We have meal and snack times. If I don't have the junk that they want in the house, then they have to make due with a piece of fruit or whatever I have. They can eat what I cook for dinner or they can have pb&j. Same rules I have for my own.
I guess that's about it. I'm horrible for not doing things the way BM wants me to.