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how do i phrase this tactfully?

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
My df and i are getting married in April. Instead of gifts, we would like people to donate to our honeymoon fund. I know there is a website for this- its a newer trend. But i also think it is tacky to ask for gifts so i want to write on the invitation something like " your presence is your present" but also give the info about the honeymoon fund website if they so choose to gift us that way. How do i phrase that without making anybody feel obligated?


*"phase" was clearly a typo, assholes. I did spell it correctly in the post.
thanks for all the useful advice.
Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 11, 2013 at 12:42 PM
Replies (11-20):
MilkLover0203
by Platinum Member on Nov. 11, 2013 at 12:46 PM
My brother in law is marrying his first wife next month, and they asked for Home Depot gift cards instead of gifts. I LOL'ed real hard.
strongforthem
by Platinum Member on Nov. 11, 2013 at 12:47 PM
Just add the website name to the bottom of the invite.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Nov. 11, 2013 at 12:47 PM

I wouldn't mention anything on the invites.  People will likely ask about a registry and you can mention the donation site.

Is there NOTHING you need?  I think it'd be wise to make a small registry because some people feel they have to give a gift, a real gift.  Maybe put down items you'll need for your vacation.  Like if you're going somewhere tropical, put down the sunscreen, sunglasses, a swim cover up, etc.

ivegotrhythm
by Gold Member on Nov. 11, 2013 at 12:47 PM
Tacky any way you "phase" it.
strongforthem
by Platinum Member on Nov. 11, 2013 at 12:48 PM
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I find it funny that you specified it was his first wife, do you expect their marriage to fail?


Quoting MilkLover0203:

My brother in law is marrying his first wife next month, and they asked for Home Depot gift cards instead of gifts. I LOL'ed real hard.

LilliesValley
by on Nov. 11, 2013 at 12:49 PM
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does the website have a recommendation?

i see it as being no different than inserting a card saying we are registered at blah blah blah, so i would just put we are registered at blah blag blah.com. but you should put it on a separate card in the envelope and not on the invitation itself.

kissmiss213
by Platinum Member on Nov. 11, 2013 at 12:49 PM

put it in the registry info. make a small registry at some store. they will want to give gifts, some people like to give money, so just do that.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Nov. 11, 2013 at 12:50 PM
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You can't.

This is one of the worst trends I've seen in recent years.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Nov. 11, 2013 at 12:50 PM

 I like PP's response.  I also like your original thought and would simply leave it at that. 

" your presence is your present"

I would further to add to make sure to include your EMAIL for RSVP inquiries.

Should the guests inquire if you are registered anywhere...

Have the information pre-printed, formatted, whatever, to hand out (Email) UPON REQUEST.

Quoting SommelierMom:

Don't write anything at all.

The most couth way to imply you'd like money is by not registering anywhere.

 

highlandmum
by Spunky on Nov. 11, 2013 at 12:50 PM

I think it is in bad taste no mater how it is worded.  To me it is like asking for cash only.

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