If you havent had a daughter/son and really wanted one
1st off I want to say I have one son and I always wanted a son 1st I adore little boys .BUT after him my DH and I found out we may never be able to have more and its breaking my heart. I am so thankful for the child I do have hes the love of my Dh and I life but I always have longed for a daughter as well. Like I have always felt I am meant to be the mother of a daughter . I just feel lost like one of the greatest desires in my life may never happen and as much as I try to just pick up the pieces and move on and really enjoy what we have now my mind keeps going back to that longing for the daughter I will never have . Just yesterday I was in the store and all the Christmas dolls were out and I thought of sharing that time playing dolls with my mom and thought I will never have that experience Christmas morning or buying her a pretty Christmas dress and I almost broke down right there in the middle of the store .Just really that mother daughter bond and just any of the things you do with daughters I have looked forward to my whole life .
I don't know how to get passed this feeling because the longing for a daughter has been a part of me as long as I can remember .
I know you all may suggest adoption and actually I am totally for it but my DH doesn't want to go that route 1 because he doesn't think we will ever get chosen because he is older and 2 because hes had friends that havent had the greatest experience with adoption 1 finally got a child after waiting for yrs and yrs that child ended up being severely autistic and he said if it was his biologically he knows he would love it regardless but he feels like if it wasn't and there was something wrong he wouldn't bond and he wouldn't want to do that to a child ever (I don't understand what the difference is but I respect him for being honest about his feelings with me ) and another of our friends have had 2 bio moms change their minds at the signing and is worried about putting me through that .
I just don't know how to move on anybody have to deal with this either way wanting a son and not having on or wanting a daughter and never having one does that longing ever really go away ? I feel like this realization of never having more kids and a daughter esp is a hurt that will forever effect the rest of my life and I just dont know how to feel better about it