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My 11 year old SD has sexual problems

Anonymous
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Me and DH took custody of his daughter a year ago after finding out that her moms boyfriend was sexually abusing her. He's in jail.

The backlash? She's tried to get little boys to get naked, kissing her cousins, trying to touch her sisters that lived with her at her moms. We've caught her using foreign objects and have to remove anything that may give her internet access because she will steal phones, sneak on computer and try to watch porn. Not just any porn, abusive porn, lesbian rape porn (her abuser also had her sister involved) and anal porn. She says when she thinks of her abuser it makes her want to touch herself.

Her therapist said we are supposed to tell her that touching herself is OK and touching is a pleasurable experience, but how are we supposed to explain that to a child who gets turned on by thinking about being abused.

We are having difficulties with inappropriate notes beingppassed to classmates, tickling being an excuse to touch other kids, etc.its terrifying and I don't know what to do about it anymore.

And yes we have anything with internet on lockdown. But this kid is sneaky. We have to lock our phones in our bedroom or keep them in our hands at all times.. All the computers have been parental controlled and password protected. She will wait for someone to leave something unattended for a second and then run off with it. Its out of control!!!!!.
Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 18, 2013 at 11:38 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 18, 2013 at 11:42 PM
Bump for help
mom2gmp2
by Silver Member on Nov. 18, 2013 at 11:44 PM
I can't help. But here's a bump. Good luck
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Nov. 18, 2013 at 11:44 PM
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Serious therapy is needed. Maybe a new therapist. She sounds to be regressing rather than progressing :(

Good luck to all of you, it's going to be a long road.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 18, 2013 at 11:45 PM
Bump
CrossStitchMum
by Platinum Member on Nov. 18, 2013 at 11:46 PM
Poor girl :( heaps of hugs, love, therapy and family time sounds like a good idea
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 18, 2013 at 11:49 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Nov. 18, 2013 at 11:49 PM
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I know you may see this as a regression, but it may just be her way of coping. If she feels a certain way when thinking of her abuser, let her work it out. And if she's using objects, then maybe buying her a small toy so she at least has something safe to use, because face it she's gonna do it. If you tell her her own reaction to her own abuse is wrong, she's just gonna get more confused.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Nov. 18, 2013 at 11:51 PM
Omg.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 18, 2013 at 11:51 PM
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How appropriate is it to buy an 11 year old child a toy? That seems way wrong..

Quoting Anonymous:

I know you may see this as a regression, but it may just be her way of coping. If she feels a certain way when thinking of her abuser, let her work it out. And if she's using objects, then maybe buying her a small toy so she at least has something safe to use, because face it she's gonna do it. If you tell her her own reaction to her own abuse is wrong, she's just gonna get more confused.
teri4lance
by Platinum Member on Nov. 18, 2013 at 11:52 PM

needsnew therapist.

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