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Does the drop-off and/or pick-up policy at your kid's school drive you nuts?

Posted by on Nov. 21, 2013 at 9:15 AM
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Dad Calmly Complains About School's Lame Pick-Up Policy & Gets Arrested (VIDEO)

by Jacqueline Burt 

arrested dadOnce in a while (too often, actually), a story comes along that makes me so mad, so righteously indignant, that I can't even freaking deal. Like, I want to tell you about the absolutely ridiculous thing that happened to this by all accounts good dad but I have to wait for the smoke to stop coming out of my ears mad. This, my friends, is one of those stories. And if you have a child who goes to a school where the pick-up and/or drop-off policy is inefficient to the point where it's borderline dangerous, then before long, you'll most likely be spewing smoke, too. 

See, Jim Howe of Tennessee wasn't doing anything wrong when he went to pick up his two kids from South Cumberland Elementary School. Really, he wasn't. All he did was dare to complain about a ridiculous rule preventing him from picking up his kids on foot ahead of parents picking up their kids by car.

(Just so we're clear, what Howe wanted to do was walk on the sidewalk like a civilized human being, ahead of the long, long line of cars holding up traffic to get his kids -- as opposed to waiting, ON FOOT, at the end of that long, long line of cars.)

Guess what happened to Howe? HE GOT ARRESTED. 

What how why?! Well, it appears that Howe's fatal mistake was the phone call he made to Cumberland County Sheriff to air his grievance (calmly and rationally). That phone call apparently ruffled the feathers of South Cumberland Elementary's School Resource Officer Avery Aytes, who wouldn't even listen to Howe, shutting him down thusly: "I'm going to call some help down here and we're going to take you up to the jail right now ... I'm not putting up with this today."

Luckily, the whole wildly unjust thing was caught on video by Howe's fiancĂ©e: 


Insane, right?? As a parent, I've dealt with school drop-off/pick-up policies so convoluted and aggravating, I spent most mornings/afternoons banging my head against the steering wheel, so my heart really goes out to this guy. When will the madness stop, schools??

Does the drop-off and/or pick-up policy at your kid's school drive you nuts?

by on Nov. 21, 2013 at 9:15 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 21, 2013 at 9:28 AM
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I actually love the pickup system at my kids school.  As long as every one follows the rules (there are two parents right now that instead of parking int he parking lot (an extra 20 steps, not that far) park in the pick up line.  They both park at the same time and block the entire drive.  If they pulled over and parked in one lane then the rest of us could drop and go.  But they seem to think that the three steps from the car to the school is so far that their child will get lost.  They have been told numerous times not to block the drive but they do it anyway.  Otherwise it is a great system that flows well if you are picking up and dropping off, and if you choose to go in and get your kid (I do sometimes to touch base with their teachers) there is plenty of parking and they release right to you. 

mom2the.rescue
by Gold Member on Nov. 21, 2013 at 9:32 AM
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Wow.  That is ridiculous.  I wonder if they'll be changing their procedures now lol.  

Our school has rules that no one follows and that aggravates me.  You're not supposed to leave the line once your kid gets in or out.  Driving around the line and walkers is dangerous.  But people do it.  

There's also a strangely placed stop sign (that I suspect is to show you where the first car is to stop)-no one pulls all the way up to it, and when you're passing it, you're waved through by some weird woman...so we do or don't stop at the stop sign?  lol...our last school was a Catholic school and super strict on their rules.  

AnnaBright
by Gold Member on Nov. 21, 2013 at 9:36 AM
Drop off line is no parking single lane. You can park other places and walk kids in. We have 2 bus' that are used for 2 students with special needs. Everybody else has to walk or drive kids.
TG3
by Silver Member on Nov. 21, 2013 at 9:43 AM

Hang on you're not allowed to pick up your kids on foot? What if you just live down the road? I can see the school here from my front garden and will be walking my kids to and from school.

MomWhoLiveGreen
by Member on Nov. 21, 2013 at 9:53 AM

At my kids shool the pick up line is long too.. I park at the park right acorss the street of the school and walk across to get my kids when school lets out. There is also avalible parking in the back but that too far for me to walk with my 4yr and a stroller. The only problem I have is the IDIOTS that block the drop off line in the morning cause they cant seem to stop behind the exit and let us out..

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 21, 2013 at 10:00 AM

There is a reason for those policies. SAFTEY FOR THE CHILDREN.

The video wouldn't load, but I'll bet there is more to the story than what we're seeing.

I'm so sick of impatient, rude people who don't want to follow the rules.

Momsold
by on Nov. 21, 2013 at 10:02 AM
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Nope, it doesn't.

I live in Canada where we don't feel the need to control everyone's every move.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 21, 2013 at 10:09 AM
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Video wouldn't load for me either, but I did read another article on this that went into a little more detail. Apparently this father feels the policy isn't safe, as the pick up line can reach half a mile long at busiest times, and is also along a busy roadway, parents aren't allowed to escort kids to the cars, the kids have to walk themselves to cars, not totally unsupervised, but with only a handful of school aides to watch from near the building. I can see why he feels it's not safe.

Quoting Anonymous:

There is a reason for those policies. SAFTEY FOR THE CHILDREN.

The video wouldn't load, but I'll bet there is more to the story than what we're seeing.

I'm so sick of impatient, rude people who don't want to follow the rules.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 21, 2013 at 10:12 AM
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Lmao! If you had watched the video, you would be saying something completely different. Don't comment when you're just making assumptions.

Quoting Anonymous:

There is a reason for those policies. SAFTEY FOR THE CHILDREN.

The video wouldn't load, but I'll bet there is more to the story than what we're seeing.

I'm so sick of impatient, rude people who don't want to follow the rules.

fatcat0908
by Gold Member on Nov. 21, 2013 at 10:16 AM
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I don't care what the drop off, pick up policy is because I refuses to hand deliver my children to school when there is a perfectly good school bus that drives by every morning they can hop on. My school taxes are through the roof and I plan to utilize every penny of them.
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