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Is it okay to sit on his lap?

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

Hello. I am married and we are going through a rough patch, so today I was crying to my bff (who is a guy) and he pulled me onto his lap to comfort me and just let me cry. I have been friends with this guy since high school and he is like a brother to me I NEVER thought of him as anything sexual. But  I was telling my sister how sweet he was in comforting me and she was yelling at me that a married woman shouldn't sit on their guy friends lap. I dont know if I did something wrong or if she is just being ridiculous. What do you think?

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 23, 2013 at 9:02 PM
Replies (31-40):
ashleynm85
by on Nov. 23, 2013 at 9:18 PM

FUCK NO!!! I don't think this is okay AT ALL!!!  How would you feel if you found out your husband had some chick on his lap?  Yeah so not appropriate.  I wouldn't sit in my dad's lap to let him comfort me while I cry.  Stop being so needy and go without cuddling.  Seriously.  Cuddling with another man IS NOT going to help the rough patch with your husband.

cybcm
by Gold Member on Nov. 23, 2013 at 9:18 PM

Why is everything sexual to so many people?

alexsmomaubrys2
by Ruby Member on Nov. 23, 2013 at 9:19 PM

And now what?

Are you going to forgive him? Is he sorry? Will he do differently in the future? Was trust lost? How will you get it back? How are you going to repair your marriage?

These are things you two need to talk about.

Quoting Anonymous:

He knows I am mad at him and he also knows what he did was wrong


Quoting alexsmomaubrys2:

Then tell him!! Nothing will get fixed until the lines of communication are opened.

Quoting Anonymous:

I know, but right now I am just so mad at him.


Quoting alexsmomaubrys2:

I don't think you did anything wrong.

That being said, you should have had this emotional moment with your husband. If you are going through a rough patch he needs to see you upset and he needs to be the one to comfort you so you two can rebuild that bond. I would say this to you even if your BFF was a woman.







”Nonsense wakes up the brain cells. And it helps develop a sense of humor, which is awfully important in this day and age.” - Dr. Seuss. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 23, 2013 at 9:19 PM

I wouldn't care he'd only be mad bc I didn't go to him, but right now I am so mad at him I can't


Quoting quinnsmom715:

is this something youd want your husband to see?if not,you have your answer..



BewitchedKisses
by Gold Member on Nov. 23, 2013 at 9:19 PM
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I've been friends with my best friend, who is a guy, for more than 20 years. I have never, ever, ever sat on his lap, held his hand or anything like that. We went to prom together There has been an occasional hug, and sometimes he's hugged me while I cried for a minute. 

If you are a married woman, the only man's lap you should be in is your husbands. No matter what. 

Quoting Trying4onemore:

Women that do not have friends that are their best friends that are male will never understand this and will assume that you're being a whore or that you're going to sleep with him or have some kind of sexual thought which is not the case at all


my bbc is male and I have cried and he has done the same to me ,it felt great to cry and be held and feel Like someone really cared 



I feel ya girl no harm no fowl


ashleynm85
by on Nov. 23, 2013 at 9:21 PM
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I have a guy best friend and uh...  I STILL FIND THIS INAPPROPRIATE!!
If my husband went to a girl best friend and snuggled with her for comfort, I'd be pissed!!   


Quoting Trying4onemore:

Women that do not have friends that are their best friends that are male will never understand this and will assume that you're being a whore or that you're going to sleep with him or have some kind of sexual thought which is not the case at all


my bbc is male and I have cried and he has done the same to me ,it felt great to cry and be held and feel Like someone really cared 



I feel ya girl no harm no fowl



Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 23, 2013 at 9:23 PM

As long as your husband was ok with it.  There are all sorts of comforts.    i think it is sweet he wanted to comfort you.

SweetPea2004
by Platinum Member on Nov. 23, 2013 at 9:23 PM

I only sit on my s/o lap.

Trying4onemore
by on Nov. 23, 2013 at 9:23 PM

My husband as SEEN me sit in his lap we all grew up together as KIDS in elementary school we KNOW we are all just friends and don't suffer with jealousy 

Quoting BewitchedKisses:

I've been friends with my best friend, who is a guy, for more than 20 years. I have never, ever, ever sat on his lap, held his hand or anything like that. We went to prom together There has been an occasional hug, and sometimes he's hugged me while I cried for a minute. 

If you are a married woman, the only man's lap you should be in is your husbands. No matter what. 

Quoting Trying4onemore:

Women that do not have friends that are their best friends that are male will never understand this and will assume that you're being a whore or that you're going to sleep with him or have some kind of sexual thought which is not the case at all


my bbc is male and I have cried and he has done the same to me ,it felt great to cry and be held and feel Like someone really cared 



I feel ya girl no harm no fowl



Trying4onemore
by on Nov. 23, 2013 at 9:24 PM

My husband as SEEN me sit in his lap we all grew up together as KIDS in elementary school we KNOW we are all just friends and don't suffer with jealousy 

I was telling her of MY experiences not yours
Quoting ashleynm85:

I have a guy best friend and uh...  I STILL FIND THIS INAPPROPRIATE!!
If my husband went to a girl best friend and snuggled with her for comfort, I'd be pissed!!   


Quoting Trying4onemore:

Women that do not have friends that are their best friends that are male will never understand this and will assume that you're being a whore or that you're going to sleep with him or have some kind of sexual thought which is not the case at all


my bbc is male and I have cried and he has done the same to me ,it felt great to cry and be held and feel Like someone really cared 



I feel ya girl no harm no fowl




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