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What would you think?

Anonymous
Posted by Anonymous
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So ok heres the deal...my dh says Im being paranoid, i say Im not and thats something a person would say to defuse the situation..so I want some other opinions...First it started with late night texts.. his work does send out automated texts if something with their system goes wrong, I said lets switch phones for a few days, then he can prove me wrong and I will have to eat my words, nope, wouldnt do it. Then he started taking his laptop to work, said he needed it for work, which i know he does, SOMETIMES, not every damn day. Then I see theres a pw has been installed, he claimed it was to sync up with the system at work..ok Im not going to make a big deal over something Im not sure about...Im still unsure through all of this, but then this morning I go in his office and now his pc has a pw on it too, that it didnt yesterday. Doesnt this behavior scream of someone hiding something? He doesnt have time( I think and hope) so screw around but i think he may be starting something online with someone. why else would he be so secretive, its not like I even snoop..I only saw this stuff because he had left his pc on when he went to work and I went to shut it down and his laptop fell asleep and when I moved it that pw prompt screen popped up. IDK...he makes me feel like Im being a paranoid ass but doesnt help the matters.

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 24, 2013 at 6:23 AM
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MagicMonkey
by Cilla on Nov. 24, 2013 at 6:29 AM

Go with your gut! Always! 

B1Bomber
by Platinum Member on Nov. 24, 2013 at 6:34 AM

It would make sense that if his office decided they wanted better security that they would install it on both home and work computers for their employees.

However, the fact that he is insisting you are paranoid is sketchy. If it really was just an office thing, and he knew you were prone to worrying, he should have said that his company was upgrading their security and it would be affecting his phone and computer in the near future.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 24, 2013 at 6:36 AM

thats what i thought, all he had to do was tell me, so i didnt worry.


Quoting B1Bomber:

It would make sense that if his office decided they wanted better security that they would install it on both home and work computers for their employees.

However, the fact that he is insisting you are paranoid is sketchy. If it really was just an office thing, and he knew you were prone to worrying, he should have said that his company was upgrading their security and it would be affecting his phone and computer in the near future.



Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 24, 2013 at 6:37 AM

my gut says something shady is going on. he theory is theres no proof so it mustnt be, hes an IT so he thinks Im an idiot when it comes to this kind of stuff.


Quoting MagicMonkey:

Go with your gut! Always! 



jenny3344
by Silver Member on Nov. 24, 2013 at 6:44 AM
He's probably been chatting online with women, watching porn or has been going to dating websites. None of which he probably considers cheating but it is something to hide from you. He's defending his guilty behavior and thoughts by accusing you of being paranoid and getting the focus off him and onto you. If he had nothing to hide he'd show you all his electronics.
justpeachy71904
by peachy on Nov. 24, 2013 at 6:47 AM
, if you have that much doubt you have larger issues
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 24, 2013 at 6:51 AM

Thats what i think too...hes got something to hide, if he didnt he shouldnt have any issue showing me everything, my stuff lays around for him to look into anytime. He knows I dont care about porn, never have and never will. I dont care if he has women friends either, because until recently  thought I could trust him,.


Quoting jenny3344:

He's probably been chatting online with women, watching porn or has been going to dating websites. None of which he probably considers cheating but it is something to hide from you. He's defending his guilty behavior and thoughts by accusing you of being paranoid and getting the focus off him and onto you. If he had nothing to hide he'd show you all his electronics.



Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 24, 2013 at 6:52 AM

yea, thanks Capitain Obvious, hense this post....it sure is some large issues.


Quoting justpeachy71904:

, if you have that much doubt you have larger issues



Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 24, 2013 at 6:58 AM
*hence

Don't be rude.


Quoting Anonymous:

yea, thanks Capitain Obvious, hense this post....it sure is some large issues.



Quoting justpeachy71904:

, if you have that much doubt you have larger issues





justpeachy71904
by peachy on Nov. 24, 2013 at 7:04 AM
Exactly. You come here posting your drama and then don't expect responses?

I say give up on going through his shit and be done. Sorry I dont play those games. He wants to hide shit, ok. Im done.



Quoting Anonymous:

*hence



Don't be rude.




Quoting Anonymous:

yea, thanks Capitain Obvious, hense this post....it sure is some large issues.




Quoting justpeachy71904:

, if you have that much doubt you have larger issues






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