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Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

So ok heres the deal...my dh says Im being paranoid, i say Im not and thats something a person would say to defuse the situation..so I want some other opinions...First it started with late night texts.. his work does send out automated texts if something with their system goes wrong, I said lets switch phones for a few days, then he can prove me wrong and I will have to eat my words, nope, wouldnt do it. Then he started taking his laptop to work, said he needed it for work, which i know he does, SOMETIMES, not every damn day. Then I see theres a pw has been installed, he claimed it was to sync up with the system at work..ok Im not going to make a big deal over something Im not sure about...Im still unsure through all of this, but then this morning I go in his office and now his pc has a pw on it too, that it didnt yesterday. Doesnt this behavior scream of someone hiding something? He doesnt have time( I think and hope) so screw around but i think he may be starting something online with someone. why else would he be so secretive, its not like I even snoop..I only saw this stuff because he had left his pc on when he went to work and I went to shut it down and his laptop fell asleep and when I moved it that pw prompt screen popped up. IDK...he makes me feel like Im being a paranoid ass but doesnt help the matters.

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 24, 2013 at 6:23 AM
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copperked
by Silver Member on Nov. 24, 2013 at 7:09 AM
My ex was IT and he absolutely used his tech savviness to cheat on me online. He also traveled a lot for work and I found emails that he tried to set up an appointment with a prostitute on one of his jobs. My gut kept telling me something was very wrong and he kept making me think I was just crazy. An honest and faithful man has nothing to hide.


Quoting Anonymous:

my gut says something shady is going on. he theory is theres no proof so it mustnt be, hes an IT so he thinks Im an idiot when it comes to this kind of stuff.



Quoting MagicMonkey:

Go with your gut! Always! 





MIA0223
by Emerald Member on Nov. 24, 2013 at 7:21 AM
You are both right.
You are being paranoid. Ifhe uses his phone for work stuff it makes sense not to trade for a few days.
And possibly the passwords were a reaction to you snooping. He probably got offended and reacted.
Or he could be hiding something.
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sarasunshine99
by Silver Member on Nov. 24, 2013 at 7:28 AM
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What I've learned in therapy...if you have to ask the question, you already know the answer.  Good Luck

Jennifer.
by on Nov. 24, 2013 at 7:29 AM

I would just keep an eye on his behaviour and if something more obvious comes up then I would call him out on it.


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 24, 2013 at 7:47 AM

Well all your doing is postin the obvious, an actual thought would be appriecated...that said, I agree with you, but the problem is what if he isnt doing something wrong, what if I AM just paranoid...It does seem like game playing to me as well, Ive told him a bunch of times this behavior worries me, if he was so innocent it would be pretty easy to prove it, just give me his pw, right? I swdear he thinks if its not actual sex its not cheating..I dont think porn is cheating but dirty pics and dirty talk is.


Quoting justpeachy71904:

Exactly. You come here posting your drama and then don't expect responses?

I say give up on going through his shit and be done. Sorry I dont play those games. He wants to hide shit, ok. Im done.



Quoting Anonymous:

*hence



Don't be rude.




Quoting Anonymous:

yea, thanks Capitain Obvious, hense this post....it sure is some large issues.




Quoting justpeachy71904:

, if you have that much doubt you have larger issues








Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 24, 2013 at 7:50 AM

Thats exactly it..i just have this feeling that something is wrong. I would love to find out that I am just paranoid and then I could apologize and move on. Its the factt that he does nothing to prove me wrong, just tries to feed me a line a bs.


Quoting copperked:

My ex was IT and he absolutely used his tech savviness to cheat on me online. He also traveled a lot for work and I found emails that he tried to set up an appointment with a prostitute on one of his jobs. My gut kept telling me something was very wrong and he kept making me think I was just crazy. An honest and faithful man has nothing to hide.


Quoting Anonymous:

my gut says something shady is going on. he theory is theres no proof so it mustnt be, hes an IT so he thinks Im an idiot when it comes to this kind of stuff.



Quoting MagicMonkey:

Go with your gut! Always! 







Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 24, 2013 at 7:53 AM

Ive used his pc for a couple of years now, for print jobs and ect that I dont care to on my laptop, why all the sudden...and the think was I havent turned on his desktop pc in months....I do use it but very seldom. I never saw a reason to snoop until recently. This pw was just put in this morning before he went to work or sometime last night. I hope i am just paranoid.


Quoting MIA0223:

You are both right.
You are being paranoid. Ifhe uses his phone for work stuff it makes sense not to trade for a few days.
And possibly the passwords were a reaction to you snooping. He probably got offended and reacted.
Or he could be hiding something.



Lilith.23
by on Nov. 24, 2013 at 7:55 AM
Hmmm i always say we women we just know,
so dear go with your guts.
Talk to him, sit his ass down, tell him he better not call you crazy and he sure as hell better listen to you.
Lets hope it's just porn and nothing more.
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 24, 2013 at 7:55 AM

Thats the thing, these types of things keep happening, its not like one thing happened and I blew it out of proportion, things KEEP happening, first the phone, then the laptop and now the pc....Im just sick of it.


Quoting Jennifer.:

I would just keep an eye on his behaviour and if something more obvious comes up then I would call him out on it.



Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 24, 2013 at 7:57 AM

yea...but he knows I dont care about porn and I doubt he would hide it, theres no reason to. IDk if online screwing around would be a deal breaker for me, we just had a baby a year ago and Im 25 weeks pregnant. Im not sure what I CAN do right now even. I justg hate him for doing this, if it truely is nothing then why not just tell me for cryin out loud.


Quoting Lilith.23:

Hmmm i always say we women we just know,
so dear go with your guts.
Talk to him, sit his ass down, tell him he better not call you crazy and he sure as hell better listen to you.
Lets hope it's just porn and nothing more.



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