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Is it rude to not bring something? *Update*

Anonymous
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In your opinion, do you think it is rude to show up empty handed to Thanksgiving dinner hosted at a family member's house?

My mother-in-law just sent me a Facebook message telling me the "menu" and wrote who is bringing what. Then she said, "You don't have to bring anything, but you can if you want to." Clearly, she is hinting that she wants me to contribute. I am going to offer to bring a variety of non alcoholic drinks because I don't want to cook.

*Update*
I decided to make a few suggestions (paper/plastic wear, sweet tea, or pumpkin pies) and ask my mother-in-law what she would like us to bring. Her response was: "Paper-plastic wear and/or sweet tea would be great!" I showed my husband the messages and he said he would pick up some plates, napkins, cups, and plastic wear.

Just wanted to update and thank everyone for the advice!
Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 25, 2013 at 10:55 AM
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britmichele
by on Nov. 25, 2013 at 10:56 AM
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Yes it is rude to go empty handed
owl0210
by Emerald Member on Nov. 25, 2013 at 10:56 AM
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I always bring a bottle of wine or dessert when I'm invited to Thanksgiving.
MIA0223
by Emerald Member on Nov. 25, 2013 at 10:57 AM
Depends.
In my family its expected. That's how its.done every year.
Everyone brings a side and a dessert.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 25, 2013 at 10:57 AM
Desserts were covered. Pretty much everything was covered!

Quoting owl0210:

I always bring a bottle of wine or dessert when I'm invited to Thanksgiving.
suzanneyea
by Ruby Member on Nov. 25, 2013 at 10:58 AM

Yes, every brings something. You may not want to cook, then go get something at whole foods.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 25, 2013 at 10:58 AM
This will be my first thanksgiving there. I have never brought anything before.

Quoting MIA0223:

Depends.

In my family its expected. That's how its.done every year.

Everyone brings a side and a dessert.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Nov. 25, 2013 at 10:59 AM
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Drinks, rolls, appetizers.

Another awesome idea would be containers for people to take leftovers home in!

mygardenia
by Gold Member on Nov. 25, 2013 at 10:59 AM
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As long as you don't show up empty handed. The drinks are fine !! If you are worried then you can ask your MIL what she thinks is missing. 

awesomemommy2
by Gold Member on Nov. 25, 2013 at 11:00 AM

So you are bringing bottles of soda?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Nov. 25, 2013 at 11:01 AM

My family and my DH's family have always done a potluck type dinner. So every year we bring something. And for both families certain people pretty much always bring certain dishes. I make deviled eggs every year for both families. Plus this year I'm making pumpkin cake and macoroni salad. And yes it's rude not to bring something even if it's just dinner rolls you can always find something to help out.

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