I'm pretty sure I have failed and I don't know how to fix it. I have two children, both girls and I love them OH so much but I am at the end of my rope and I need help. My oldest is almost 5 years old (in January) her name is Olivia and she is the reason I think I have failed. My younger daughter will turn 2 in December and she is the light of our lives (just like Olivia is) she listens incredibly well doing what we ask of her the first time we ask it. She cleans up her messes and toys without being told, she plays quietly and enjoys running outside but she knows that she has an "inside" voice and an "outside" voice we never have to remind her of that.
Then there is Livy. The child DOES NOT listen! We have to say her name several times before she will acknowledge that we are speaking to her, when she makes a mess with her toys it takes six times to get her to clean her stuff up. She doesn't give two shits about the volume of her voice. When its rest time she will scream, laugh as loudly as possible, ignore what I say. All around do everything she knows the is not supposed to do. We have spanked her for misbehaving, for not listening. We took away her fun stuff including all of her toys leaving her with only books to occupy her time. When we call her name if she doesn't say "yes ma'am/yes sir" and we have to call her name several times she will get time out. She has had an upset belly for a few days now, I asked her to lay on my bed and rest quietly while I did some work next to her. She kept moving, then she would jump on the bed, ignore everything I said and screamed as loud as she could and in turn woke up her sister.
I am at my wits end with her. When daddy is home (he works long hours) she listens marginally better but still acts like a brat. We have tried the reward system for example if she acknowledges us when we call her name the first time she gets a sticker if she listens well all week she gets to have a special date with us without her sister. Yeah that doesnt work. She just flat out refuses to listen.
We had her hearing tested in case it was a hearing issue and the doctor came back saying her hearing was 100% fine. I don't know what to do with her anymore. She does attend a small school two days a week from 9 to 3 and she listens perfectly well there