My mom died when I was a kid, it was just me and my dad. When I was 17 my dad married this amazing woman who had a small child. I am very close to my step mother and step brother. My dad and my step mom had 4 other kids. I'm now 32 and she has been in my life for the last 15 years. They are like real family no step or half involved.
The issue is the holidays. She comes from a big family so we always have spent the holidays with her family. I've never been included in a gift, nor has my son.
Examples: Her parents get the grand kids a family pass to the aquarium every year. I've never been included nor has my son. I have to watch them open the gift. Last year, she gave every member of the family $200 which must be spent to make a new family memory. I had to watch everyone open gifts and sit there quietly.
Its been like this since I was 17. I don't know what to do to make it feel better. Every year the step grandmother has me do family photos (I'm a photographer). I spend hours upon hours editing, printing, shooting, etc. Never have been asked to be in one. We go there every thanksgiving and christmas plus many more times during the year so its not like I'm a stranger there. I try really hard. Last year with the family photos, I also included one of my son but its no where to be found in their home. Even during christmas and thanksgiving speeches she talks about her 10 grandkids. I want to scream YOU HAVE 11 YOU JERK and a great grand child!!
I've said something to my dad and step mom about this several times, they always just say she is old and doesn't want to change her ways. But I feel excluded every time and it honestly hurts my feelings..