My homophobic sister in law is causing Christmas drama
My husband and I have Christmas at our house every year. We're the only ones who can accomodate a big group because of our house size/layout. My son is 19 and in college about 45 minutes away. He's a wonderful young man who happens to be gay. He has a boyfriend and invited him to Christmas at our house since he can't afford to fly home for the holidays. I have met him and really liked him, and I'm excited to spend Christmas with him and my son together.
My sister in law called today to confirm plans and to start planning what she would bring. She asked if it was just "the usual" crowd coming, which is my family (my parents, my 2 siblings and families) and his family (his parents, his 3 siblings and their families). I said yes, and that Eric would be having his boyfriend here (just as my neices and nephews often bring their SO's).
She got quiet and said "oh." Basically, long story short, she said that I know that her and her husband don't approve of homosexuality and don't want to expose their kids (12, 10 and 8) to it in a situation that presents it as "normal or okay". She seemed to think that I was doing it to somehow personally spite her. I told her if felt that way, she's free to keep her opinion to herself when she's here, or to not come for Christmas.
My other SIL called half an hour later and said my SIL was hurt that I "disinvited her because of her religion" (???) and that "family should come first", so I should disinvite my son's boyfriend because it upsets her. I told her that that wasn't happening, and they're free to make plans of their own if it bothers them.
Ugh. I can't believe this bullshit is coming up in my own family. I have never said a bad word about her religion or her views to her, but she feels she can lecture me on who I'm having at MY home?
Update (December 19): She called me and told me that her 12 year old had been "crying all night" because she told the kids they weren't come from Christmas, so they wouldn't get to see his cousins or grandparents on Christmas. I said I was sorry to hear that. She said "ya, I'll bet you are" in a snarky tone and hung up.
Officially putting her out of my mind and looking forward to Christmas with my family and other loved ones, but what a psychotic woman.