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mil just volunteered me to be a brides maid

Anonymous
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For my sil. Sil is 19, just found out she is pregnant, and decided to get married. She has been with her bf for 5 months. I was at Mils and they were discussing bridal party, the bf has one person more than sil in his bridal party. Sil said she didn't know who else she could choose, she doesn't have many friends.
That's when mil said "_______ (me) will be your brides maid, wont you?"
I was so blindsided by it, that I said "I guess"
The conversation ended there. Sil and I are not close, She's kind of a brat.
I really don't want to be her brides maid. I just started a new job and trying to catch up on my bills and save up for a new car, I probably won't be able to afford the dress she picks, or to pitch in for the bridal shower or bachelorette party. The wedding is in 2.5 months.
Any advice?
Posted by Anonymous on Dec. 1, 2013 at 1:06 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 1, 2013 at 1:09 AM
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Didn't mean to go anon
EAzizM
by Erica on Dec. 1, 2013 at 1:12 AM
Tell her no. You can't be forced to do what you don't want.
baquick
by Ruby Member on Dec. 1, 2013 at 1:13 AM
You can say no.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 1, 2013 at 1:14 AM
I just don't want her to take it personally, knowing her, she will, and play it like I hate her


Quoting EAzizM:

Tell her no. You can't be forced to do what you don't want.

RazzleMySpazz
by spaztastic on Dec. 1, 2013 at 1:15 AM
Well considering the short notice It would be in poor taste of her to expect much.... Out of anyone.....


The dress would be the biggest concern, but hopefully she has shred of common sense and chooses something that can be easily purchased...

I was 19 when I got married (10 month engagement) I picked a t length black dress for my bridal party but told everyone that they were free to wear any similar black dress they had or could find, 3 wore the dress I picked and two wore a similar so I alternated them in the line... It turned out nicely... Maybe offer that as a suggestion to her????

but for bridal shower offer to bring a dish or two.... That's really for the maid of honor anyway.....


I just can't imagine anyone expecting much with such a short notice!!!
Supervane
by Ruby Member on Dec. 1, 2013 at 1:15 AM
I would just do it, if you don't really like her then maybe opt out of the bridesmaid rituals
rebeccarae
by on Dec. 1, 2013 at 1:15 AM
My sister did this EXACT thing, I said no. My financial stability came first, she didn't get mad, she understood.
EAzizM
by Erica on Dec. 1, 2013 at 1:16 AM
So what? She will get over it

Quoting Anonymous:

I just don't want her to take it personally, knowing her, she will, and play it like I hate her




Quoting EAzizM:

Tell her no. You can't be forced to do what you don't want.

auntyag
by Gold Member on Dec. 1, 2013 at 1:23 AM
Try to explain why you cant
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Dec. 1, 2013 at 1:59 AM
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Tell her that you weren't excepting to be asked and after you went home and thought about it unfortunately you will not be able to be her brides maid.

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