I just learned over the holiday/extended weekend that he molested/abused his neice. At the time he was ten and she was a toddler. I never knew and he and his sister and neice are close. I knew he was a victim of child abuse, and that probably messed him up but...I tried the last few days and I just can't make it OK or justified in my head. I too was a victim as a child and knew what was wrong by 10. I have two daughters. I can't marry a man I cant trust with my kids.