I told my DH that I am not ok with him giving his ex extra money and now he isn't talking to me
My DH has 2 kids with his ex. He has them every other weekend so he pays CS. The CS amounts to about 30% of his income after taxes. I take no issue with him paying this, I have 3 kids with my ex and get CS for them. However, despite the fact that he pays $850 a month and only keeps about $2000 of his pay, his ex has been asking for more money. 2 months ago, her car needed repair and she asked him for $400, last month, she was behind on the electric bill and it was about to be shut off so she needed over $300. Now, SDD needs new glasses and she doesn't have the money even though since DH provides the kid's insurance, she is ordered to pay all co payments, it will be $150 for the glasses. We have had several arguments about this. He says that if he wants to help his kids out, he should be allowed to. I say that since he is using OUR money, he needs to clear it with me. Now I told him to pay for the glasses because I don't want SDD going without them but from now on, he needs to tell his ex that she gets CS, if she can't provide for them with the CS and her income, custody may need to be changed.
I told him that if he gives her any more money, I will take half of the money out of the account, start my own and no longer put my child support checks in our joint account. I don't work but based on my ex's income I get $4000 a month in CS plus I own the house we live in free and clear. He can pay his share of the bills and I'll pay mine. It sounds drastic but I am so sick of not having money when we need it because he has given it to his ex. We have his 2, my 3 and the 2 we have together and it just doesn't seem right that so much money is going to his 2.
Now he isn't talking to me, hasn't texted or called all day, he is at work but I just don't know what else to do. I have tried talking to him but anytime I disagree with him giving extra he says "my kids, my choice".
it matters, the money is broken down this way: I get $4000 in CS plus I
own the house we live in free and clear, no mortgage payments, he makes
about $2900 and pays $850 in CS. So our monthly income is $6050