dh's dead ex wife's sister. Can I tell her to back off? ETA
I have known dh and his ex my whole life, we were all childhood friends and grew up together. Well he married her and I married our other friend, shortly after dh and Kelly got married she got pregnant. They had a baby girl but things fell apart for them, they got divorced after she got caught sleeping with my husband... So I got divorced also. 2 years later, she died in a car accident. Dh and I connected over having mixed emotions about her death.
We got married pretty much right away and had a child of our own. I adopted his dd as mine because she was like my child, I loved her just the same. I had been in her life since the day she was born.
So now, her we are 6 years later, Kelly sister has been butting her head in to our business a lot lately, she just found out that I adopted oldest dd and is not happy about it. She says that I am not her mother and I could never replace her mom.... She also went off on my dh for getting married so quickly after Kelly died, they had been divorced for 2 years... She also keeps tying to impose her parenting techniques on to me... My girls are 8 and 6... I think I have figured something out by now.
Can I tell her kindly to get off my back? Or do I have to deal since her sister died?
I wanted to add that dh and myself have made sure to include Kelly's family in every event that dd does. They have been to every birthday, every school play... They come visits when ever they like, they are a wonderful family, and we could never ever shut them out.