Okay, so to begin. Every year my mil takes the whole family (minus my stbx) to a Christmas pagent in "the big city " about an hour and a half out of town. We leave right after church. I work at church, so between the service, travel, pagent and dinner it's a twelve hour day.
This would be a novel if I listed everything that went wrong so I'll just list the main point :my severely ADHD kid with sensory issues did not take his meds. Although he swore over and over that he did. So I wasn't confident giving them because I didn't want to overdose.
If you never believed in ADHD, you would if you'd seen him yesterday. It was like an overacted parody of a cartoon, except it was real . He couldn't control his body, his voice, his impulses. Gestures that usually sooth or refocus him just agitated him.
I removed him from the situation at least six times during the pagent and dinner to try to get him together but he was overestimated and overtired and nothing was working.
I couldn't just take him home, which is what he needed, because we were more than an hour from home and I didn't drive.
We usually love this day and for the first time my parents joined us so we were really looking forward to it.
We didn't get to socialize with anyone. Not his cousins, aunt or uncles, grandparents. It was one long nightmare of trying to keep him under control.
He's ten, btw. And it was my birthday.