I have seen many posts recently with women bitching that their mothers, or MILs want to charge, or limit, or God forbid say NO to watching their children on a consistent basis....as a replacement for daycare.
I am not talking about once in a blue moon, or for date nights or emergencies.....they are complaining about not receiving free consistent childcare while the mother is working or doing whatever else she does.
When did grandparents become FREE childcare? They did not have those babies, YOU DID....and while it is a nice gesture for them to help out from time to time they are certainly under NO obligation to babysit your child at ANY time for nothing.
My first grandbaby is due in April. Will I help out my son and his gf? Yep. But I am not, and will not, be a complete replacement for daycare for a child they chose to have.
Grandparents have lives and they raised their babies. Why are they responsible for also raising yours?
The entitlement astounds me.
Edit: I am reading through the replies and cannot for the life of me understand why NOT being a daycare makes you an "unloving or uninvolved grandparent." You can be a VERY involved grandparent, a loving, spoiling grandparent, and NOT be a daycare. Many people view this as all or nothing, if you don't take the kids all the time....well you don't love your grandkids. That's crazy.
Edit #2: For clarity I reworded the beginning. Some folks were confused.