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My ex-husband lets my 9yr old sleep in bed with him and his girlfriend...

Posted by on Dec. 11, 2013 at 7:28 AM
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Seriously. It is so inappropriate. It makes me sick. WWYD?
*Update* as many of you are not reading the replies, I will specify. She is a short term gf. Dd has her own bed and is being asked to sleep in bed with them. I don't think she's being molested and I'm not putting that into her head, nor do I grill her on visits with her father. I'm not some bat sh*t crazy lady. I just find it concerning and I want to find out her feelings on the matter. I'm merely concerned.
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owl0210
by Emerald Member on Dec. 11, 2013 at 7:31 AM
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Nothing because I wouldn't have a legal leg to stand on. There is nothing in my divorce decree about such a thing.
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adrianaevanmom
by on Dec. 11, 2013 at 7:32 AM
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Why is it inappropriate? I doubt they'r fucking with her in there. Lots of moms let their children sleep in their beds. Sometimes my 8 year old son sleeps with me and my husband.

How long have him and the gf been together?
luvmybug
by Amanda on Dec. 11, 2013 at 7:33 AM
Not very long.

Quoting adrianaevanmom: Why is it inappropriate? I doubt they'r fucking with her in there. Lots of moms let their children sleep in their beds. Sometimes my 8 year old son sleeps with me and my husband.



How long have him and the gf been together?
DusterMommy
by Silver Member on Dec. 11, 2013 at 7:34 AM
Okay...

Do you have reason to believe that they're having sex with him in the bed?

No? Then I don't see the big deal.
luvmybug
by Amanda on Dec. 11, 2013 at 7:34 AM
Even my therapist says it's highly inappropriate. So does everyone else I've asked about it. It makes me very uncomfortable.
CABZS
by Emerald Member on Dec. 11, 2013 at 7:35 AM
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Nothing.

My DD tends to sleep in bed with me and her dad and she's 9.

My son, not biologically my DH's, is 13 and climbed into our bed for years.

Now we have family movie nights in our huge king bed and we tend to all fall asleep.

Why is this so horrible?
adrianaevanmom
by on Dec. 11, 2013 at 7:35 AM
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I wouldn't want her sleeping in the bed with the gf then, but I don't really see the big deal of her sleeping with her dad. Like I said, my 8 year old son sometimes does. I don't ever say no if my kids want to. My 13 year old dd will even come crawl in sometimes.

Quoting luvmybug: Not very long.



Quoting adrianaevanmom: Why is it inappropriate? I doubt they'r fucking with her in there. Lots of moms let their children sleep in their beds. Sometimes my 8 year old son sleeps with me and my husband.





How long have him and the gf been together?
Mrs-Somerhalder
by Blake on Dec. 11, 2013 at 7:35 AM
Does she have a bed at his house?
Is he making her sleep in the bed or is she asking to?
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owl0210
by Emerald Member on Dec. 11, 2013 at 7:36 AM
Okay so what do you plan to do? File a motion?

Quoting luvmybug: Even my therapist says it's highly inappropriate. So does everyone else I've asked about it. It makes me very uncomfortable.
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adrianaevanmom
by on Dec. 11, 2013 at 7:37 AM
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There's nothing inappropriate about a child sharing a bed with her parent. I don't understanding the fear women get over fathers being a parent.

You need a new therapist.

Quoting luvmybug: Even my therapist says it's highly inappropriate. So does everyone else I've asked about it. It makes me very uncomfortable.
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