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Husband has another kid??! What!!!?

Anonymous
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You and your husband have been together for 13yrs. You have three children: a set of 10yro twins and one 7yro. Normal, happy marriage.

Your husband is older than you, though. By 14yrs. So, he has a whole 'nother world that you weren't apart of bc, well, you were a child lol.

You and your husband are casually talking about the kids when he mentions he might have another child out there from a previous relationship. By doing the math, this child would be 21yro. It was a very young fling that abruptly ended with no spoken reason. She just vanished and disappeared. When he reached out to her friends, they scolded him with things like "how could you?" And "how dare you?!" So, your DH isn't positive what happened, but he wonders if it was bc she was pregnant.

This is the first you're hearing of this.

What do you do next?
Posted by Anonymous on Dec. 15, 2013 at 8:52 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Dec. 15, 2013 at 8:53 AM
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ask him why he never mentioned it before, and wonder if i can trust him anymore

Chunkymunkey922
by on Dec. 15, 2013 at 8:53 AM
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Nothing. Let him do what he feels he needs to do and support him through it.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Dec. 15, 2013 at 8:56 AM
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I do nothing, although I would wonder why he never mentioned it before. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Dec. 15, 2013 at 8:57 AM
Not sure if there is really anything that you can do.
Bluescorpia
by Shanoon on Dec. 15, 2013 at 8:58 AM
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Support him in finding out the answers to that.
mjgm1966
by Bronze Member on Dec. 15, 2013 at 8:59 AM
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 I'd do nothing.  Why disrupt the now adult child's life?  It's something he should have persued years ago.  If there is a child, wait for that child to find him.  Then embrace with open arms.

Trying4onemore
by on Dec. 15, 2013 at 8:59 AM
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Help him if that's what he wants, the child is grown, made before your relationship and unknown about
Thunderbug75
by Gold Member on Dec. 15, 2013 at 9:00 AM
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 I wouldn't do anything.  This is completely his deal.  Whatever he decides to do I would support him.

mamakat070812
by Gold Member on Dec. 15, 2013 at 9:00 AM
I wouldn't care. It had nothing to do with our relationship and the "child" is grown up. If he wanted to pursue finding out and meeting the child, id be okay with that too.
MidwestMama55
by on Dec. 15, 2013 at 9:01 AM

If it was before you there's really nothing to be angry about. Surprised and hurt, yes. But all you can really do at this point is be supportive.

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