Buying for 4 kids when you only have two...is that fair?
This comes up every holiday. I have a cousin with 4 kids and she's notorious for being cheap. I admire the way she makes a buck stretch but sometimes she takes it a bit too far to the point of being tacky. Like she'll have one big bday party for ALL her kids who's ages range from 13 to 7, feeds everyone hotdogs and chips and because it's a bday party of course you have to gift but since there's so many people just don't go and she wonders why.
She's well known for jumping ahead at Christmas and buying gifts for the families with one or two kids because that means they'll have to buy for her FOUR when all she bought was for one or two. I have 2 kids and had no problem telling her we couldn't afford to gift outside the immediate family so not to bother getting mine anything but not everyone will tell her but they'll complain. We have 2 families that are just starting out so it's a little tough and they suggested drawing names and she got offended because that would mean only one of her kids would be getting a gift so they're back to having to buy for her four when all she has to buy is one. Is that fair? Would you moms with 4 or more mind telling me what's the proper etiquette on that? She's notorious for buying stuff on clearance this year and gifting it for next which is no problem cause I do the same especially if it's toys but I'm still spending double. She has 3 girls and I've thought about getting them all like a game but they're ages are soo different and it'd be awkward to get her son something completely different. I'm just wondering how everybody else deals with this situation.?