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Why do people react so negatively to Jews?

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
I've had so many people say Merry Christmas and I KINDLY reply with thank you and I'm Jewish, hoping for Happy Hanukkah or maybe just a smile, but instead I get some nasty look and usually a rude comment. Since when is being Jewish such a bad thing? I don't knock anyone for celebrating Christmas but damn do I feel like an outcast sometimes.

Update - since I keep having to repeat myself I would like to clarify that this is a general thing during the holidays, not just AFTER Hanukkah and it's not just strangers, but people I know as well. This means when people talk to me about the holidays and ask me, I explain that I'm Jewish so I don't have Christmas plans, they go silent and uncomfortable like it's a bad thing.

One more thing, I do say happy Hanukkah in return and I still get a dirty look. The entire point of my post is to find out why people don't like it when people are Jewish or simply don't celebrate Christmas. Since when is this so important?
Posted by Anonymous on Dec. 24, 2013 at 8:53 PM
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myshoes
by Gold Member on Dec. 24, 2013 at 9:01 PM
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I am catholic and when someone tells me "happy Hanukkah" I say "thank you, I hope you have a Happy Hanukkah, too".  When I say Merry Christmas....I'd like to hear the same in return. Even if you are not celebrating my holiday, I hope you have a good day on the 25th.  Or maybe just say, "And a Happy Hanukkah, to you too." It will let them know that you are jewish (since that is important to you) and it won't sound so rude.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Dec. 24, 2013 at 9:01 PM
Nice :-) and Thank you. I think you are the first person I've heard say that.

Quoting piesmama09:

Happy Hanukkah!!!!

Laura1427
by Gold Member on Dec. 24, 2013 at 9:02 PM

It's not. Happy Hanukkah!

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Dec. 24, 2013 at 9:03 PM
I see what you are saying and I have tried that approach bit I just get a confuses look and a shrug so I just let it go. I don't think any way I have handled it I have been rude but I do think it's rude to assume one's religion. Not you, but others in general

Quoting myshoes:

I am catholic and when someone tells me "happy Hanukkah" I say "thank you, I hope you have a Happy Hanukkah, too".  When I say Merry Christmas....I'd like to hear the same in return. Even if you are not celebrating my holiday, I hope you have a good day on the 25th.  Or maybe just say, "And a Happy Hanukkah, to you too." It will let them know that you are jewish (since that is important to you) and it won't sound so rude.

piesmama09
by on Dec. 24, 2013 at 9:04 PM

 Don't worry about haters!

Quoting Anonymous: Nice :-) and Thank you. I think you are the first person I've heard say that.

Quoting piesmama09:

Happy Hanukkah!!!!

 

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Dec. 24, 2013 at 9:04 PM
Yupp!

Quoting Roxygurl: Its not that they are reacting rudely because you're Jewish it's because you're correcting them instead of just smiling and saying thank you.



Honestly if someone were to say happy Hanukkah to me I would just smile and say thank you, and the same to you. To me its not worth correcting a stranger who you'll forget in 5 minutes
SpiritedWitch
by Froggie on Dec. 24, 2013 at 9:05 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Dec. 24, 2013 at 9:06 PM
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Well, last month, I would have replied with Happy Hanukkah, but since Hanukkah is over, I would have figured the need to greet people with it was over. Just like I wouldn't expect people to say Merry Christmas to me in January.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Dec. 24, 2013 at 9:08 PM
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people have been hating Jews since there has been Jews - I have no idea why since Jewish belief is the foundation of Christianity and Islam - maybe Jews are disliked and resented because they never accepted Christ as the messiah and don't believe in the Mohammad either - but my son was told when he was younger that he should go to jail for not believing in Jesus - so much for teaching children about living with diversity and the constitution, also he found some swastikas on his desk - when I showed the principal he said that they have a program for tolerance - apparently it was not working - there also was a special edition of time magazine for kids about the last 100 years - you know what they said about Jews in WW!! - that they went to camps - nothing about any one being murdered - though it did mention that MLK was murdered - so they had no problem using that word - and the Holocaust deniers- I haven't heard anyone doubt that slavery happened - it's just weird - you go figure it out, cause for the life of me I can't

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Dec. 24, 2013 at 9:11 PM
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Ok, so you're saying I should just give in to another religion bc it's rude not to? That seems pushy to me and rude. This is not just about strangers, it's people who I see regularly remembering and respecting what I participate in and acknowledging that without being nasty about it.

Quoting Roxygurl: Umm yeah I read the entire post. I gave you MY explanation as to why I think people act like that towards you. In your shoes I wouldn't correct anyone I'd just smile and say thank you.



Quoting Anonymous: Did you read the entire post?! I said I reply with thank you then correct them. What is wrong with that? It's not just strangers, it's friends too and I correct them so they know better next time. I think that's fair.





Quoting Roxygurl: Its not that they are reacting rudely because you're Jewish it's because you're correcting them instead of just smiling and saying thank you.







Honestly if someone were to say happy Hanukkah to me I would just smile and say thank you, and the same to you. To me its not worth correcting a stranger who you'll forget in 5 minutes
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