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My Stalker Is Out Of Jail and has Found Me...

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He called me at work (Friday)  and before he could get a word out I transferred the call to the on site police officer.  He had no problem telling the officer that he knows where I work and live and will be coming to my house today. (Very dumb of him as I have a three year no contact order) The officer was easily able to write up a report for me in case he does show up at my house.  Just in case this is what my dh got me. (pic is not me just how it looks concealed)


Posted by Anonymous on Dec. 25, 2013 at 2:39 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 25, 2013 at 4:25 PM

I am so sorry.

I hope it never comes down to that.  I have visualized many scenarios I win in each one

Quoting Anonymous: I had a stalker for 5 years. It was an ex coworker . I had to shoot him when the police didn't help. A restraint order was just a piece of paper. When I got pregnant is when it became violent, and my DH was at work . My stalker had a knife when he broke in. I shot him in the kneecaps. Basterd will never walk again and wheels himself around prison for the next 35 years. Don't hesitate to shoot hon if it gets to that point .


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 25, 2013 at 4:28 PM

I have no plans to be a victim.  I am more worried about the kids.  I haven't slept in days just thinking over and over how to protect them

Quoting tsdaughe: You do what you have to in order to protect yourself. My ex assaulted me and the protective order did nothing. I got pepper spray and the last time he was seen near my house and I called the police I told the officer I would be getting a gun next and would shoot him to defend myself. The cops wouldn't do anything unless they caught him on my property. He went to jail for something else for a year and I saw he was released recently. I haven't seen him near my place but he maybe in court ordered rehab or something. Come to find out he had two dwi's and got 2 more after he assaulted me. Nothing happened to him because the courts allowed him to file charges against me as a scare tactic and the day of the hearing the arresting officer couldn't be there and they were going to continue the case for 2-3 months. They had combined our cases into one even though i had a police officer as a witness. In my line of work, I can't have a record. I was up for a federal contact job and didn't want to risk my clean record. Seeing how the law allowed him to violate the order and him to harass and stalk me, I didn't trust them to see his charge against me was bogus. He filed on his own through a magistrate the day he was released from jail. So i let the charges me dropped. I regret it because his stalking got worse after that. That's why I say do what you have to and don't be a victim. Good for you standing up for yourself. My DH is a great man and was my biggest support and one reason I fell in love with him.


msjaxon
by Platinum Member on Dec. 25, 2013 at 4:30 PM
Dont shoot out ya ass crack!
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 25, 2013 at 4:32 PM

straight from the hip msjaxon!!

Quoting msjaxon: Dont shoot out ya ass crack!


tsdaughe
by on Dec. 25, 2013 at 4:51 PM
I know the feeling. Sorry you are going through this.

Quoting Anonymous:

I have no plans to be a victim.  I am more worried about the kids.  I haven't slept in days just thinking over and over how to protect them

Quoting tsdaughe: You do what you have to in order to protect yourself. My ex assaulted me and the protective order did nothing. I got pepper spray and the last time he was seen near my house and I called the police I told the officer I would be getting a gun next and would shoot him to defend myself. The cops wouldn't do anything unless they caught him on my property. He went to jail for something else for a year and I saw he was released recently. I haven't seen him near my place but he maybe in court ordered rehab or something. Come to find out he had two dwi's and got 2 more after he assaulted me. Nothing happened to him because the courts allowed him to file charges against me as a scare tactic and the day of the hearing the arresting officer couldn't be there and they were going to continue the case for 2-3 months. They had combined our cases into one even though i had a police officer as a witness. In my line of work, I can't have a record. I was up for a federal contact job and didn't want to risk my clean record. Seeing how the law allowed him to violate the order and him to harass and stalk me, I didn't trust them to see his charge against me was bogus. He filed on his own through a magistrate the day he was released from jail. So i let the charges me dropped. I regret it because his stalking got worse after that. That's why I say do what you have to and don't be a victim. Good for you standing up for yourself. My DH is a great man and was my biggest support and one reason I fell in love with him.


FelineTopic
by on Dec. 25, 2013 at 4:54 PM
I hope you are trained and prepared to use that pistol. Shoot the fucker in the balls, when you do...
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Dec. 25, 2013 at 4:55 PM
Be careful. I don't have a stalker but I have an ex Getting out of prison in April and I will blow that sob away if he comes near me and my kids. Ro is just paper.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 25, 2013 at 5:14 PM

and it's a piece of paper that offers no protection whatsoever!

I hope to not have to blow himm away, but I will if I have to

Quoting Anonymous: Be careful. I don't have a stalker but I have an ex Getting out of prison in April and I will blow that sob away if he comes near me and my kids. Ro is just paper.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 25, 2013 at 5:16 PM

I was going to aim for the knees but I think I like your suggestion better.  I have been resistant to buying a pistol and now my dh is taking me a couple times a week to the range as a crash course.

Quoting FelineTopic: I hope you are trained and prepared to use that pistol. Shoot the fucker in the balls, when you do...


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 25, 2013 at 5:18 PM
Quoting tsdaughe: I know the feeling. Sorry you are going through this.

Quoting Anonymous:

I have no plans to be a victim.  I am more worried about the kids.  I haven't slept in days just thinking over and over how to protect them

Quoting tsdaughe: You do what you have to in order to protect yourself. My ex assaulted me and the protective order did nothing. I got pepper spray and the last time he was seen near my house and I called the police I told the officer I would be getting a gun next and would shoot him to defend myself. The cops wouldn't do anything unless they caught him on my property. He went to jail for something else for a year and I saw he was released recently. I haven't seen him near my place but he maybe in court ordered rehab or something. Come to find out he had two dwi's and got 2 more after he assaulted me. Nothing happened to him because the courts allowed him to file charges against me as a scare tactic and the day of the hearing the arresting officer couldn't be there and they were going to continue the case for 2-3 months. They had combined our cases into one even though i had a police officer as a witness. In my line of work, I can't have a record. I was up for a federal contact job and didn't want to risk my clean record. Seeing how the law allowed him to violate the order and him to harass and stalk me, I didn't trust them to see his charge against me was bogus. He filed on his own through a magistrate the day he was released from jail. So i let the charges me dropped. I regret it because his stalking got worse after that. That's why I say do what you have to and don't be a victim. Good for you standing up for yourself. My DH is a great man and was my biggest support and one reason I fell in love with him.


Thank you. I am trying to keep the day as normal as I can for them but every little noise is creeping me out
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