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Edit: I said If he was watching porn again id leave so I guess were done

Anonymous
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Dh left he is staying with his parents until I get things packed and move. I am not dealing with him lying anymore and he was told to make a decision porn or our marriage and he made it. Thanks for the ladies who have been supportive.

I'm tired and fed up and just done. I love my dh but I am sick of him watching porn. It's been four years now and he he's cheated on me once and even though he agreed porn shouldn't be a part of his life while we are together I've caught him yet again searching porn. A bunch of searches for black porn on his phone.

I feel just lost. I can't take it anymore. I obviously am not good enough and not the type of girl he wants to be with I don't look anything like these women. I just want to be good enough for someone that they don't need another woman or porn. I haven't been able to look at him the same since the first time and each time he does this it takes apart my heart piece by piece

I'm scared to be living on my own but I know I'll never be happy being lied to

Edit: I have such a problem with it because he lied he swore porn was not something he was into, I told him from the beginning it was a deal breaker for me. He cheated later on in our marriage I was very sad upset and we separated for a bit and got back together I wanted to give him a second chance, when I found out about the cheating I also found out about the porn watching and how long it had been going on behind my back. I chose to try and move past that as long as he promised porn and cheating were never going to be an issue again and he promised.

I am sad and hurt because I feel we should be each other's one and only I hate te thought of him fantasizing about another woman just as much as I hate the thought of him actually having sex with someone else they are both really bad in my opinion. I know most here think I'm awful and insecure and controlling but I'm not he had the option to not get together with someone who views porn as a deal breaker.
Posted by Anonymous on Dec. 27, 2013 at 10:50 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Dec. 27, 2013 at 10:52 AM
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Yeah he'll never be happy living with such a controlling bitch, time for him to move on

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Dec. 27, 2013 at 10:53 AM
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You won't get any help or comfort posting about porn here. Heed my words, ladies. Even if your DH is a chronic wanker to porn and watches it 20 times a day to the point his little tally whacker has become a gummy worm and he starts calling you some porn stars name while receiving fellatio from you...

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Dec. 27, 2013 at 10:53 AM
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it has nothing to do with you being good enough or his type. i look at porn, mostly lesbian porn but i'm not into chicks in real life. and dh more than satisfies me but that doesn't mean i don't get urges when he's not around sometimes. stop taking it as something personal. my issue would be that he went back on his word, not so much the actual porn at this point. but i've never really understood the issue with porn so.....

mrs.pookiward
by Bronze Member on Dec. 27, 2013 at 10:54 AM
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Really?! It's just some porn,gth over it! Why are you so insecure?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Dec. 27, 2013 at 10:54 AM
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Been there with my exhusband. He had a porn addiction which escalated into looking at ads on Craigslist, then making plans to meet up. I was afraid to leave as well, but I was tired of the lies and being plain miserable all the time.

I'll tell you what though. Divorcing him was the best thing I ever did! I'm SO much happier now!

Good luck to you in whatever you decide.
OwlNuggets
by HAIL NUGGY! on Dec. 27, 2013 at 10:54 AM
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Listen, I get that all relationships are conducted differently and what's okay for one is not okay for another.

But...Hey, *I* watch porn, and my husband watches porn too. I can TELL YOU RIGHT NOW that I have never compared my man to porn actors nor even considered the thought.

It's hot to watch other people bangarang, pick up some new techniques, and fantasize about DH WHILE I watch it!!!

Krysta784
by Dani on Dec. 27, 2013 at 10:54 AM
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I'm sorry hon. It's pretty obvious he doesn't respect you enough to kick the habit. And all women deserve to be their man's one and only. I have given the same ultimatum before and luckily, my DH valued our relationship and family more than getting his rocks off.

I'm sorry yours didn't. You'll survive though and you'll find a man one day who will treat you like you deserve. Don't settle! Hugs mama.
Bubbie0809
by Dreaded hippie on Dec. 27, 2013 at 10:54 AM
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It's the cheating on me that would have ended it.
SpnFulOfSugar
by Emerald Member on Dec. 27, 2013 at 10:55 AM
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Yeah if your marriage is ending over porn it was obviously doomed anyway.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 27, 2013 at 10:55 AM
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Why does that make me a bitch? I'm really sick of people who make it the wife's fault for their husbands cheating or porn habits

Quoting Anonymous:

Yeah he'll never be happy living with such a controlling bitch, time for him to move on

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