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I'm starting to worry my son needs help

Anonymous
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I am not sure if im being over the top or just a concerned mother. I have seen some things with my son's behavior. He is 10 and has two younger siblings both under 3. He does things like hold them down until they cry or take things from them and laugh when they cry. I have noticed they don't cry until he is home from school and they are playing alone with him. At his age I do allow them to play in his or their room but here lately I've become concerned and stopped him from being alone with them. He has expressed to me he is angry I am not with his dad and wishes I would be with him. his dad and I were once married but haven't been for about 5yrs now. I have also noticed he loves violent games (which I normally limit my husband his step dad allowed him to play one of his) he laughs when people die on the game and says things like I feel so evil. he is obsessed with fire and we caught him looking at porn (he reset his device I put a parental lock on). he is violent at school and constantly getting in trouble. they just suggest it's add though. I was raised old school so before things got as bad as they are I tried spankings, removing privileges and talking to him for his school fights. I am coming here because my friends wouldn't understand and I just saw him pretending to chop the baby with a butcher knife. he is such a sweet and kind boy one minute and the next he is doing the things I described. I am googling therapist now but I have no experience with this. I don't know what to do. we have discussed him seeing a therapist before and he saw one who said he needed a firm hand and not to be babied. I'm sorry this is so long I just didn't know where else to ask this.
Posted by Anonymous on Dec. 30, 2013 at 8:12 PM
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Loveavision
by Gold Member on Dec. 30, 2013 at 8:15 PM
Your kid sounds nuts. Don't let him around your babies.
babydsmommy18
by Gold Member on Dec. 30, 2013 at 8:18 PM
Stop leaving the younger ones alone with him. Seek therapy asap, I would call his doctor first thing in the morning and began therapy before something worse happens. That's not normal behavior for anyone.
Sbellemommy
by Silver Member on Dec. 30, 2013 at 8:18 PM
He needs help.
Sparklepants747
by Queen Annie on Dec. 30, 2013 at 8:19 PM

Take him to a therapist. It would be horrible if something happened to your babies, and having him talk to someone can't hurt. 

Bonnie_
by Gold Member on Dec. 30, 2013 at 8:20 PM

He  needs to learn  how to  nurture.   I  would  say get him a pet  but  if he is  taking  pleasure in hurting  the babies  then no.  How about this.  See if you  can  get  him  interested  in gardening.  You  don't  even need a big  yard.  You  can even  put a pot on a small balcony  or patio  and  put a small tomato  in  it.  Have  him  give the plant a name  and take pictures  of him with it.   Also  get some  small hardy  house plants for around the  house  that he can name.   When the plants  begin to bear fruit  he will obtain  satisfaction  from  caring  for something.    Might work?

RedMatador09
by on Dec. 30, 2013 at 8:20 PM

You are just now thinking he needs help?  He needs lots of help, please schedule an evaluation ASAP.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Dec. 30, 2013 at 8:20 PM

he sounds like a potential psychopath...get him some help asap..let them know he's threatenign harm to siblings

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Dec. 30, 2013 at 8:22 PM

that would be a good idea after he's had some therapy to learn proper anger management.. at this stage, he'd use it as a weapon and destroy it just to hurt someone's feelings. 

Quoting Bonnie_:

He  needs to learn  how to  nurture.   I  would  say get him a pet  but  if he is  taking  pleasure in hurting  the babies  then no.  How about this.  See if you  can  get  him  interested  in gardening.  You  don't  even need a big  yard.  You  can even  put a pot on a small balcony  or patio  and  put a small tomato  in  it.  Have  him  give the plant a name  and take pictures  of him with it.   Also  get some  small hardy  house plants for around the  house  that he can name.   When the plants  begin to bear fruit  he will obtain  satisfaction  from  caring  for something.    Might work?


LuvMommysBabies
by Silver Member on Dec. 30, 2013 at 8:24 PM
Call his pediatrician and get him evaluated and they can refer you to behavior specialist too, there could be a real problem with him.
destiny3513
by Gold Member on Dec. 30, 2013 at 8:24 PM

Hmmm, seems he has an issue but wouldn't take out the shock paddles or anything. Kids tend to act that way at that age at least from what I've seen I've worked in day cares, elementary, high schools, etc. I've seen many children.

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