She is 16 he is 26. Before I knew his age I didnt like like their relationship. Some of the stuff she would say about him weirded me out. Some of the text messages were kind of off. I told her that I didn't feel comfortable with it. She said she saw him at school so at first I didnt know his age. What I didnt know is that she was sneaking him INTO the school to see him. I told her I wanted to meet him and I was shocked when I did.
I didnt go crazy because I knew that wouldnt help anything. I told him I wanted to talk to him without my daughter hearing. I told him that he needed to put an end to the relationship NOW. I asked him what he had in common with my daughter...he could nto come up with anything but "she is pretty and I like her". I asked him simple questions about her to see if he even really knew here and he could barely answer. I told him that if I found him talking to here, or if she saw him I would call the cops and have charges pressed without a second thought.
Well one night I heard the dogs started going crazy. I went downstairs and the backdoor was open and he was trying to jump the fence. I called the cops immediately. DH and I are pressing charges against him. My DD of course is pissed because they are "in love" but when I asked her the same questions I asked him she couldnt answer more than "i like older men". I can somewhat understand her dating someone a little bit older but 10 years older is a huge thing.
My DD is not one of those really mature for her age girls. She has had one job but got fired because she could not do all her responsibilities at work. She has okay grades but she wont get a full ride scholarship probably. She still behaves like a child sometimes with full blown temper tantrums. We have been working very hard with her and she has started doing better at school and has started volunteering to get up her people skills and work skills but now she has no desire to get a job.
I warned him. I gave him the chance to get away from my DD when I should have called the police just then and there. I thought maybe he would think Oh shit I am going to go to jail, i will be a registered sex offender and cut it out but he didnt.
My DD is still really mad. Not because we are pressing charges but because she has had many privileges taken away. They will be taken away for awhile until we can trust her again.
ETA: The age of consent here is 18.