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Stupid Friends, I'm Tired of Being Hurt!!!!!

Anonymous
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It never fails, I start out w/what I think are great friends.  I have get togethers at my house & everyone becomes a nice group & we have fun.  However, eventually many become closer & closer & seem to just forget about me.

3 of my so called best friends met through me, the 4 of us were best friends & now they find ways to ignore me.

Back home my best friend became friends w/my other best friend, the 2 of them started to ignore me.  I called them out on it & both said "you are moving & it hurts too much so we are walking away."  WTF kind of crap is that when we all talked about visiting & camping down here in TN?

It happened growing up too.  I'm ready to stop introducing my friends to my other friends!

No I don't think I'm annoying, I can be shy in new settings but they have all known that.  I'm always there for them, I'm an honest & true friend.  I honestly am starting to think one of the last few trustworthy, honest, loving & caring people out there!

I have been right there for all of them, and this shit happens!  I couldn't imagine being any other way.

My friend ended up in the hospital the day of my bday, I saw the ambulance & ran to her house.  I had her kids ALL day long & ALL night long.

My other friend would come over every Sunday & we'd cook/bake.  She really didn't know how, now she does.  Towards the end of her coming over I knew it was coming, she started making fun of me & my little quirks.  I use to think she was joking but it kept going & going.  Now I can laugh at myself for the most part but she took it too far.  She doesn't come over anymore & my other friend that had started to hang out on Sunday's no longer does either.

But the 3 of them are quick to get together.  I've never done a damn thing to them, was there for them yet for some reason it is so easy to walk away from me!

I'm tired of being there for people & then getting crapped on.  I just couldn't imagine being any other way.  I've tried not being so nice & loving & giving & it just isn't me.  I guess wearing your heart on your sleeve leaves you open for shit like this.

My problem is that they all said things like "I can't believe people treated you like that, I would never do that, I could never walk away from such a wonderful friend like you, I think you are one of the last true friends out there."    Why say these things if you don't freaking mean it?

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 3, 2014 at 7:13 PM
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luckysevenwow
by Ruby Member on Jan. 3, 2014 at 7:17 PM
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Your the common denominator here, why does it always happen?

Aside from that find yourself one good friend, stop spreading it around :)
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 3, 2014 at 7:24 PM

 Wish I knew why it happens.

We don't fight, just seems to happen slowly.  I try to ignore it thinking it is in my head but it happens.

I use to blame myself, thinking I need to change but honestly I shouldn't have to change to keep friends.

Quoting luckysevenwow: Your the common denominator here, why does it always happen?

Aside from that find yourself one good friend, stop spreading it around :)

 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 3, 2014 at 7:27 PM
Hate to say this but your the common factor. Sounds like maybe the issue is you
TurtleMami
by on Jan. 3, 2014 at 7:28 PM
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Did I write this in my sleep?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 3, 2014 at 7:32 PM

 Yeah bc nobody else could have a problem.

So tell me what the problem is, I don't treat anyone like crap.  They can all confide in me & have.  They can all rely on me & have.  I'm not a bitch to any of them and treat none of them like crap.

So please tell me what I do?

Should I let the one just sit here & rip me apart & make fun of me & say nothing?  I don't think so.

Do I do dumb shit? Sure we all do.  I can name quite a few dumb things she has done as well.

Is my other friend bossier than I am? Yup & take it w/a grain of salt bc that is how she is.  But I call her on it when she takes it too far.  Apparently one of the things she loved about me bc we balanced each other out, especially when it came to PTA crap.

I'm not an awful person & don't deserve to be shit on.

Quoting Anonymous: Hate to say this but your the common factor. Sounds like maybe the issue is you

 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 3, 2014 at 7:32 PM

 I'm sorry :( It sucks!

Quoting TurtleMami:

Did I write this in my sleep?

 

frankiesma530
by Platinum Member on Jan. 3, 2014 at 7:34 PM

Boooo, that sucks.  I keep to myself, I trust no one!

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 3, 2014 at 7:39 PM

 I'm sadly thinking that is the way I need to go :(

Quoting frankiesma530:

Boooo, that sucks.  I keep to myself, I trust no one!

 

vegaswife2011
by LMAO on Jan. 3, 2014 at 7:40 PM

Hugs mama, I'm sorry. 

luckysevenwow
by Ruby Member on Jan. 3, 2014 at 7:41 PM
Letting it happen and hoping it won't is probably why it does happen. It sounds like they are more active in maintaining the friendships.

So I'll just repeat...one good friend is worth more then a few decent friends.


Quoting Anonymous:

 Wish I knew why it happens.


We don't fight, just seems to happen slowly.  I try to ignore it thinking it is in my head but it happens.


I use to blame myself, thinking I need to change but honestly I shouldn't have to change to keep friends.


Quoting luckysevenwow: Your the common denominator here, why does it always happen?

Aside from that find yourself one good friend, stop spreading it around :)

 

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