My SS is 9 and BM always wants to say he's the pinnacle of manliness...seriously, she'll tell him that he's a grown man and that he needs to do man things and will get him things waaay out of his age group that DH and I think is inappropriate. Anyway...SS has been going through some issues with depression and even told me himself that he wants to go to therapy. He tells me a lot of things he doesn't tell BM because he's worried she'll just yell at him for it. I talk with DH anytime he talks about hating himself and self harm or suicide, DH had depression issues as a child and he's worried about his son. Now SS expresses to me frequently that he wants to wear a dress and dress up like a girl and will act like a girl sometimes and talk about how pretty he is. I asked SS if he was just joking around but he told me he really wants to dress like that. Is that normal for little boys to want that? I love him no matter what he wears so it doesn't bother me at all but I don't know if it's just a phase.
There is 50/50 custody with DH and BM and so far BM has not consented to therapy for him, which she has to do according to the court order. Has anyone been through similar things with their boys?