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Do you have an ADHD child?

Anonymous
Posted by Anonymous
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At one time I really thought ADHD was a LOAD of CRAP that piss poor parents just labelled their child with so they didn't have to parent.

boy was that an idiotic opinion.

My son is 8. He was informally diagnosed at almost 6, then formally diagnosed at 6.5. He's always been really smart, and a bit high strung. It was something we just toughed through in PreK, K, and part of 1st grade. In 1st grade he began having severe problems with staying in his seat, talking, etc. His schoolwork was being drastically affected. We then saw a psychiatrist and put him on Concerta 18mg.

In 2nd grade, you could really tell the point when the medicine wore off, and it was right around the last hour of school. His dr upped his Concerta to 36mg.

This year he is in 3rd grade. His problems seem to be: lying (a LOT and about the stupidest things!!) Acting without thinking, thinking the world revolves around him, talking, not having respect for people at school, constantly wanting to bully and rough house, arguing and muttering under his breath, and thats really all I can think of at this point.

I have papers saying that there are some things my child can do on college levels, but because he cant apply himself at school, the possibility of him failing 3rd grade has been discussed. Our state is one that depends highly on test scores, if he bombs the tests hes taking next week by either not doing them, or screwing off it could decide his fate for 4th grade.

I am at a loss of what to do. His bullying and mouthing off is getting out of hand. We have tried both positive and negative reinforcement, rewards, taking things away, grounding, spanking, heck we have even washed his mouth out. 

I really don't want to hear why this makes me a bad parent, I just need someone that has amazing suggestions that will work. He sees his psychiatrist every 6 months, but I called and made an appointment with him for next week

can anyone help me?

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 8, 2014 at 5:24 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 8, 2014 at 5:28 PM
No but I have a child that has ADHD. It took his doctor 2 years to convince me to medicate him. I'm so glad that I did. It improved his life so much. He went from failing all his classes to being on honor roll. His self esteem shot up. I also put him in counseling to help him learn ways to control and live with his symptoms.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jan. 8, 2014 at 5:29 PM

There's no such thing.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Jan. 8, 2014 at 5:32 PM
Quoting Anonymous:

There's no such thing.



Says who?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Jan. 8, 2014 at 5:35 PM

No help here, but it seems you are doing your best.

lwalker270
by Ruby Member on Jan. 8, 2014 at 5:36 PM

I have a son with Asperger syndrome as well as ADHD.  Does he have a 504 plan or IEP?  It helped us tremendously.  He also sees a behavioral therapist every other week and is involved in a social skills group.  I'm a BIG believer that therapy that can teach coping mechanisms, should go hand-in-hand with medication.




The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposed ideas in mind at the same time and still retain the ability to function.

~ F. Scott Fitzgerald



KenneMaw
by Ruby Member on Jan. 8, 2014 at 5:37 PM

It sounds like this is more than ADHD.  In addition to the meds, do you restrict his diet, like no dyes, preservatives, etc....  A friend monitors her son's diet, who has ADHD,  and it has really helped.  Also, which I am sure you already do, is limit TV, video game, and computer time.   I would really try to find a specialist to see if more may be going on with your son.  I have heard (on CM) of ODD - oppositional defiance disorder.  

good luck :-)

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 8, 2014 at 5:37 PM

no, this psychiatrist said those are for people with learning disabilities, and since my son is above and beyond he didn't need one. I'm thinking of switching...

Quoting lwalker270:

I have a son with Asperger syndrome as well as ADHD.  Does he have a 504 plan or IEP -- it helped us tremendously.  He also sees a behavioral therapist every other week and is involved in a social skills group.  I'm a BIG believer that therapy that can teach coping mechanisms, should go hand-in-hand with medication.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 8, 2014 at 5:39 PM

I looked it up once, it does sound like crap to me. it sounds more like a bratty kid... but I guess my kid is :/ and we dont do many dyes, etc in our diets anyways. we don't allow too much electronic time (we're never home anyways) I called a different psychiatrist to get a second opinion on whats going on.

Quoting KenneMaw:

It sounds like this is more than ADHD.  In addition to the meds, do you restrict his diet, like no dyes, preservatives, etc....  A friend monitors her son's diet, who has ADHD,  and it has really helped.  Also, which I am sure you already do, is limit TV, video game, and computer time.   I would really try to find a specialist to see if more may be going on with your son.  I have heard (on CM) of ODD - oppositional defiance disorder.  

good luck :-)


Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Jan. 8, 2014 at 5:39 PM
My 7th grader has ADHD. She has never been hyperactive so it took a while for anyone to even consider getting her tested. She is moody, anxious, and a lot of her frustration and inability to learn comes out in physical symptoms like headaches and stomachaches. Do you think your son getting worse might be due to frustration?
My daughter has never been mouthy, but she has ignored, especially if she is put on the spot in class, like if her teachers asks her questions that she can't answer.

We finally got her into a school where they break up the day, she has home ed, swimming, gym, computer and sewing. This semester she will have the same except woodwork instead of sewing.
This has helped her a lot!
She is much happier.
Do you think the way your sons school is set up is setting him up for failure?

Don't listen to anyone that tells you that this doesn't exist!
lwalker270
by Ruby Member on Jan. 8, 2014 at 5:41 PM
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Not true.  The lack of focus has to affect your child's grades, which it sounds like the case if he's in danger of failing.  My son routinely tests several grade levels ahead but was also in danger of failing because he couldn't focus enough to complete the work.  The IEP has given him accommodations and strategies that have brought his grades up tremendously.  

Quoting Anonymous:

no, this psychiatrist said those are for people with learning disabilities, and since my son is above and beyond he didn't need one. I'm thinking of switching...

Quoting lwalker270:

I have a son with Asperger syndrome as well as ADHD.  Does he have a 504 plan or IEP -- it helped us tremendously.  He also sees a behavioral therapist every other week and is involved in a social skills group.  I'm a BIG believer that therapy that can teach coping mechanisms, should go hand-in-hand with medication.






The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposed ideas in mind at the same time and still retain the ability to function.

~ F. Scott Fitzgerald



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