PLEASE help settle a fight!!!!!!!!! I don't even care if you tell me I'm a stupid b•••• of a wife.
Question: Am I overreacting?
Total Votes: 323
Ugh! So today was SS's bday party. We invited about 16 people to join us at an indoor waterpark. When we were leaving, DH took a pile of SS's stuff so he could change into dry clothes in the boys locker room.
Meanwhile, I am in the girls locker room changing into my dry clothes. Keep in mind it is 30* outside, so dry clothes are imperative. While I'm changing I realize my shirt AND bra are missing.
So while I'm wrapped in a towel with my swimsuit on I am searching for my bra and shirt. I go out into the lobby (where suits are not permitted) looking for anyone... DH or SS who can help me. Ss comes out of the boys locker room and I ask him if he had anything that didn't be long to him. He had nothing else in his hands, and he said, "no, dad just gave me my stuff."
So I call DH on his cell. He's outside smoking. I ask him if maybe he left it in the locker room while he was changing. He said no. Then SS goes... "is it orange?" I said yes! Even though it was in the pile that DH handed him, He said he didn't know who's it was and instead of asking he just left it in the boys locker room! This is like a 15 minute ordeal!
So, I am upset with SS because he didn't think it was important to determine who the stuff belonged to and rather just decided to ignore that he had two items of clothing that didn't belong to him and leave them in a public locker room.
DH thinks I'm over reacting! I don't think I'm wrong to be upset! And the more DH tells me I'm overreacting the more pissed I'm getting! I told DH that I'm not mad that SS had my stuff! I'm more pissed off that he felt it was ok just to leave it knowing it belonged to someone in our family. And then when I asked him if he had anything (because I didn't want to announce to his friends that I was missing a bra!!!) he lied and said NO!
Do I have a right to be upset? Should DH talk to SS about how to treat other peoples belongings? And still, 2 hours later, SS has yet to apologize for the role he played!
I am fucking pissed! I just want DH to acknowledge that SS should have handled it differently and should take responsibility instead of acting like a spoiled little brat who just rolls his eyes and laughs at the situtation like it's nothing!
SS is 12... ETA - my TSHIRT was orange. My bra was wrapped nicely in the tshirt that was folded in the pile of clothes that DH handed to SS.