Well after the wedding, i basically told him idk if i still wanted to have the "big" wedding.his best man was being really obnoxious about the bachelor party, i swear trying to get us into a fight, saying he was bringing strippers etc and he's the type of asshole who would. And that was my 1 thing i wasn't comfortable with and i told dh that years ago when we first discussed marriage. That combined with other stress factors and money,I just don't see the point.
He didn't seem to really respond or care about not having the big ceremony now, and it was his idea to begin with. Once, he kind of threw it in my face that I'm the one who called it off, but seriously, if he doesn't care, why bother?