UPDATED to clarify- you're too strict! your kids will always hate you
This is what my in laws tell SO and I all the time. Were "too strict. Our kids will act out as soon as they get the chance. They won't respect us. Etc etc etc."
sil (one of the ones so insistent were screwing our kids up) just posted that her child (about 10 yo) is out of control and needs sent to a military school.
lmao but were too strict? Our kids arent out of control. I can handle MY kids. But please. Continue in telling me how to raise my kid since yours has turned out just fabulous!
Edit because theres been a few "we don't know how you parent" or "yeah strict parenting will bite you in the ass" type replies.
Her definition, apparently, of strict, is setting rules, bounderies, having expectations, and not allowing back talk, disrespect, etc.
My kids say yes m'am, no sir. She thinks thats "crazy stupid". My kids have to be excused from the table at dinner. They have chores. We volunteer as a family. We expect respect, but we also give respect. I will not ask them to do something 10 times. There are consequences for their actions and we hold true to those.
SIL asked us to pick her son up from school one day and watch him. He was expected to follow our rules while in our home. (Obviously I didn't put him to work on chores but he WAS going to respect us). Instead he back talked, yelled at my kids, demanding things be done HIS way...NO. NOT ok in my home. He went home telling his mother we're mean and he hates us.
SIL NEVER tells her kid no. He does what he wants. He controls the house. He decides when or if hell brush his teeth, take a shower, do his home work.
Thats how all of this got started.
Now a few months later she sees how out of control he is and realizes she has no clue what shes doing.
this wasnt a "HA I WIN!" post. it was a "Dont tell me im screwing up my kids, when MY kids are well behaved, happy, and not terrors. And yours...well......"