sick of feeling unappreciated and getting a miserable attitude from dh
Every night I come home from work to a mess (or a mess by my standards anyway, not the way I want my house to be kept). 2 or 3 nights a week I make my own dinner because he has made something simple for ds and himself and not made anything for me. And worst of all, every night I come home to a miserable attitude. He's always got something to bitch about. Whether it's a fight he got in with his sister, or ds being a handful, or not getting enough sleep (when he CHOSE to stay up until 2am and not take a nap while ds was at school). His attitude is just terrible, and if I so much complain about being tired, or overwhelmed from a tough day at work, I'm just being a bitch. Mind you, I work well over 40 hours per week (and I'm salaried so no overtime either), and I have a high stress job. I handle high value claims for a bank. I spend all day investigating reports of identity theft, fraudulent transactions totalling $10,000 or more, and widespread theft reports. Since the target incident, I've been working even more hours than usual, and dealing with constant bs (because my manager put me in charge of the situation). So yes, I can be on edge when I get home, and going into work at 7am on some days, and not getting home until 8pm some nights, can really take a lot out of me. But I'm NEVER allowed to complain. And God forbid I mention that he forgot to do the dishes, or ask why there's nothing for me to eat. It's always about HIS exhaustion, and how he feels, and how I don't do anything around the house (which is complete bull shit).
I'm just fed up. He has a lazy streak to him, and I can deal with that, because most of the time he's great, and I've come home to a spotless house and a delicious dinner way more often than I've come home to a mess and a microwaved hot pocket. But it's the attitude that I just can't stand. I've thought about telling him to see if his old job would want him back, and take the pay cut and figure out something else for health insurance. I'd almost rather deal with that than his constant misery.