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Am I wrong in my methods?

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My grandmother and mother think I'm nuts for trying to potty train my 22, almost 23, month old dd. She doesn't go every times she's on, yes she trys to play while on the potty, or sometimes gets upset while on the potty too, but she does go pee sometimes and sits on the potty for a few minutes. My mother just tells me "good luck with that.". My grandmother keeps trying to tell to use candy or other sweets to get her to go because that's what she did with all the kids. I told her no that dd only gets sweets every once in a great while. I don't believe bribing her with sweet to go potty is a smart idea. She gets a new little toynor something alone those lines every few times she goes because we don't always have money to get her something every time she goes. We do tell her how much of a big girl she is and how pound we are of her and all that, and that's ok if she doesn't go at all and well try again later. I'm not trying to rush her into potty trainning, and if it takes a few months or so then I feel its ok because that's just her and she still is kind of little. Am I wrong in my methods?
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 21, 2014 at 10:30 AM
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Roxygurl
by Emerald Member on Jan. 21, 2014 at 10:32 AM
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Do a sticker chart instead. After she gets X amount of stickers she gets a special toy.

You don't have to give her candy and such but it is a good motivator. A m&m every time she goes would work or a gummy bear.

I'd also suggest buying her panties but the thick gerber kind rather than pull ups. That way they know what it feels like to be wet and that helps them learn as well.

Good luck! And no I don't think you're doing it wrong :-)
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supercarp
by on Jan. 21, 2014 at 10:36 AM

I the the only "wrong" method is making too big a deal out of it or drawing it out over weeks or months. My kids were all 2 years 5 months and it took 1 day to train them and they never wet the bed. Done.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 21, 2014 at 10:37 AM
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your kid is almost 2, its okay to start potty training.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 21, 2014 at 10:38 AM
Quoting Roxygurl: Do a sticker chart instead. After she gets X amount of stickers she gets a special toy.

You don't have to give her candy and such but it is a good motivator. A m&m every time she goes would work or a gummy bear.

I'd also suggest buying her panties but the thick gerber kind rather than pull ups. That way they know what it feels like to be wet and that helps them learn as well.

Good luck! And no I don't think you're doing it wrong :-)


Thank you:) I might try the gummy bear idea or something like that, she can't really have chocolate cuz she messes with her belly but thank you for the ideas!
Aujonfire
by on Jan. 21, 2014 at 10:43 AM
Not all kids work like that, though.

Quoting supercarp:

I the the only "wrong" method is making too big a deal out of it or drawing it out over weeks or months. My kids were all 2 years 5 months and it took 1 day to train them and they never wet the bed. Done.

supercarp
by on Jan. 21, 2014 at 10:52 AM

 The exact age was probably something they inherited: an inclination to be trained at that age. Training in 1 day is possible for any child who is ready. Children with bowel problems due to diet are usually much later.

Quoting Aujonfire: Not all kids work like that, though.

Quoting supercarp:

I the the only "wrong" method is making too big a deal out of it or drawing it out over weeks or months. My kids were all 2 years 5 months and it took 1 day to train them and they never wet the bed. Done.

 

cherkahn1
by Member on Jan. 21, 2014 at 10:53 AM
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It is ok to start, but only if your child has communicated readiness. I am a preschool director, and hands down every time a parent forcefully "potty trains" a child, it backfires. It should be child led, and always kept positive.
Aujonfire
by on Jan. 21, 2014 at 10:54 AM
My dd is still waking up with a full wet diaper. I limit liquids in the evening. Is that a sign she's not ready?

Quoting supercarp:

 The exact age was probably something they inherited: an inclination to be trained at that age. Training in 1 day is possible for any child who is ready. Children with bowel problems due to diet are usually much later.


Quoting Aujonfire: Not all kids work like that, though.


Quoting supercarp:

I the the only "wrong" method is making too big a deal out of it or drawing it out over weeks or months. My kids were all 2 years 5 months and it took 1 day to train them and they never wet the bed. Done.


 

plprincess78
by Member on Jan. 21, 2014 at 10:55 AM

I used M&Ms with both my kids.  1 M&M for going #1 and 2 for #2.  They loved it because it was a special treat for them. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 21, 2014 at 10:57 AM

all i ever did when my girls( which my youngest is sn) is that i took them to potty every so often. if they went- great/ made a big deal out it. now of course with my youngest, there was always going to be-she might not ever get it,- but she did. took alot longer. now my granddaughter was just as easy as her mom. the grandson( which we were told by everyone that boys are harder). took about year.

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